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Union Scribe

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1. I don't really understand the author.
Sun Jan 15, 2012, 04:16 AM
Jan 2012

The article seems to mourn the presence in churches of...nurturing? And men don't like nurturing? If a man is soooo "manly" that he can't embrace that as part of his spiritual self, then it seems to me he's more pretending at being manly, fearfully rejecting things he doesn't see as manly. And that sounds like an individual's problem more than the church's.

There's also complaints about what I see as fundamentalism rather than femininity (being against dancing etc.), and when I think of fundamentalism I definitely don't think of it being driven primarily by women.

Then there's this paragraph: "But try to see church through the eyes of a typical guy. It’s intimidating for a man to hold hands in a circle, to cry in public, or to imagine falling deeply in love with another man (even if his name is Jesus)."

C'mon, that's just weak. It's easy to find a church that doesn't hold hands if that's a huge deal. And all men love other men. Fathers, brothers, friends, etc. That's just macho bull.

As for being polite and restraining the baser part of being male, it's like an hour a week. We can tell fart jokes later. I just don't see the big deal.


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I don't really understand the author. Union Scribe Jan 2012 #1
I'm a female xmas74 Jan 2012 #2
Yeah...I think this is about wanting an excuse or an out... onpatrol98 Jan 2012 #3
I'd go for that. xmas74 Jan 2012 #5
I find this article both sexist and dumb. kwassa Jan 2012 #4
So my last pastor, xmas74 Jan 2012 #6
And women apparently don't care about excellence WildEyedLiberal Jan 2012 #7
And those kind of guys xmas74 Jan 2012 #8
Hahaha, the Saint Budweiser Church of the Holy Octagon WildEyedLiberal Jan 2012 #9
Any number of my coworkers xmas74 Jan 2012 #11
It might be true somewhere quaker bill Jan 2012 #10
I don't like politics in church Jack Sprat Jan 2012 #12
Churches, denominations, religious people onpatrol98 Jan 2012 #13
I was answering Vince's question from Jack Sprat Jan 2012 #14
Politics, yes. xmas74 Jan 2012 #15
Somehow, I'm not shocked by the story Jack Sprat Jan 2012 #16
Personally, xmas74 Jan 2012 #17
Some of the major denominations split over the issue of slavery Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2012 #19
I realized that you were answering Vince's question. onpatrol98 Jan 2012 #18
Sometimes the men just aren't religious, but I also know couples Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2012 #20
That reminds me of a story that the priest at the church I've been going to lately told... 47of74 Jun 2012 #25
Boredom SayIt Feb 2012 #21
Religion is Feminine; Girly Brettongarcia Feb 2012 #22
Nice post. Tripod Feb 2012 #23
They hate going to church because... Left Coast2020 Jun 2012 #24
hard time going to church refrescanos Jul 2013 #26
Churches = Bachelor Free Zones Mr_Patriot Aug 2013 #27
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