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kwassa

(23,340 posts)
4. I find this article both sexist and dumb.
Tue Jan 17, 2012, 08:39 PM
Jan 2012

and the author of the article is trying to sell his book on making Christianity more "masculine" according to his personal criteria of that.

http://churchformen.com/tools/ideas-for-your-church/ten-ways-to-man-up-your-church/

David Murrow offers a 35 minute session titled, “Ten Ways to Man Up Your Church – Without Scaring the Women and Children Away.” This session is available on his training DVD.

Here’s a brief summary to whet your appetite:

1. A Manly Pastor. Men don’t like macho or power-hungry pastors, but a pastor who projects a healthy masculinity will draw men. This is because men see their churches through their pastor. If a man respects his pastor, then he likes his church. If a man doesn’t respect his pastor, he won’t like his church. Go ahead, ask a man about his church. He won’t talk about the ministries, or the facilities, or the programs; he’ll talk about the pastor.

2. Excellence is vital. Men are less forgiving of anything bad, hokey or half baked. The churches that are growing and attracting men consistently offer excellence – in the preaching, the music, the facility and the programs. You don’t have to be the best in town; just do what you do very well and men will be drawn. And if you can’t do something well, then don’t do it at all.

3. Give men space. Churches that attract men honor their need for space. Don’t force your men to hold hands or hug each other. If you must hug, there are safe ways to do it, as you’ll see in this video clip:


and so on and so on.

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I don't really understand the author. Union Scribe Jan 2012 #1
I'm a female xmas74 Jan 2012 #2
Yeah...I think this is about wanting an excuse or an out... onpatrol98 Jan 2012 #3
I'd go for that. xmas74 Jan 2012 #5
I find this article both sexist and dumb. kwassa Jan 2012 #4
So my last pastor, xmas74 Jan 2012 #6
And women apparently don't care about excellence WildEyedLiberal Jan 2012 #7
And those kind of guys xmas74 Jan 2012 #8
Hahaha, the Saint Budweiser Church of the Holy Octagon WildEyedLiberal Jan 2012 #9
Any number of my coworkers xmas74 Jan 2012 #11
It might be true somewhere quaker bill Jan 2012 #10
I don't like politics in church Jack Sprat Jan 2012 #12
Churches, denominations, religious people onpatrol98 Jan 2012 #13
I was answering Vince's question from Jack Sprat Jan 2012 #14
Politics, yes. xmas74 Jan 2012 #15
Somehow, I'm not shocked by the story Jack Sprat Jan 2012 #16
Personally, xmas74 Jan 2012 #17
Some of the major denominations split over the issue of slavery Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2012 #19
I realized that you were answering Vince's question. onpatrol98 Jan 2012 #18
Sometimes the men just aren't religious, but I also know couples Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2012 #20
That reminds me of a story that the priest at the church I've been going to lately told... 47of74 Jun 2012 #25
Boredom SayIt Feb 2012 #21
Religion is Feminine; Girly Brettongarcia Feb 2012 #22
Nice post. Tripod Feb 2012 #23
They hate going to church because... Left Coast2020 Jun 2012 #24
hard time going to church refrescanos Jul 2013 #26
Churches = Bachelor Free Zones Mr_Patriot Aug 2013 #27
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