Bereavement

lunasun

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22. I wish you peace . Condolences

Fri Mar 3, 2017, 09:50 PM

Mar 2017

Maybe just use the "it's not you its me " thing and tell her thanks for the attention and comfort but from here on you need more space to heal on your own and you will call/text /fb her if she doesn't mind after you take a retreat at home because you need quiet time to think , reflect , and grieve . She knows this came after 45 years so she should trust you know what's best for you now. It's honest not cruel.

Also she may be doing this for her own unrecognized therapy , the need to take care of someone or avoid her own issues , etc. and you don't need that so be careful
Peace

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My husband passed away 1/26/17 [View all] Marthe48 Mar 2017 OP

Very Sorry! Chasstev365 Mar 2017 #1

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I'm so sorry for your loss. WhiteTara Mar 2017 #2

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I'm sorry about your husband. As for your sister.... LisaM Mar 2017 #5

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My heart goes out to you at this time. It must be a huge adjustment and very painful! manicraven Mar 2017 #7

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What Warpy said and all the others' insightful contributions. sprinkleeninow Mar 2017 #37

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I wish you peace . Condolences lunasun Mar 2017 #22

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Everyone stayed away from me when my husband died. We all did notdarkyet Mar 2017 #25

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So sad. You are just now climbing out of the depths of your loss elfin Mar 2017 #27

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I am so sorry for your loss of your husband. Rorey Mar 2017 #39

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May tomorrow's path to peace be more clearly marked and have fewer obstacles than today. IADEMO2004 Mar 2017 #57

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I'm sorry I missed this when you first posted. You have my sincere condolences. sinkingfeeling Apr 2017 #65

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