Bereavement

pnwmom

(109,636 posts) Wed May 23, 2018, 10:45 PM May 2018

My mom died a month ago. It happened so suddenly [View all]

I couldn't be with her at the end. All I could do was tell her how much I loved her over the telephone -- but not privately, as I would have wished. And she couldn't answer back to me with words, only sounds. But I hope that she could hear me still and understand me. I have to hope that. It hurts so much not to have been there.

I have good days and bad days. Today was a bad day. I needed something at the drugstore and I couldn't drag myself there. I finally asked my husband to drive me. It's a perfectly easy drive, but I couldn't make myself leave the house by myself.

Hugs to everyone here who is going through a loss.

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My mom died a month ago. It happened so suddenly [View all] pnwmom May 2018 OP

... RKP5637 May 2018 #1

It's OK and much love to you vercetti2021 May 2018 #2

I went to a meeting this weekend and there was a young woman there pnwmom May 2018 #3

I'm very sorry vercetti2021 May 2018 #6

I'm so sorry. MontanaMama May 2018 #4

Thank you, MontanaMama. pnwmom May 2018 #7

I truly believe your mother is not far away. Frustratedlady May 2018 #5

I need to hope that. I framed a picture that I love, and kept it near. pnwmom May 2018 #16

She heard you, I'm sure of it. fierywoman May 2018 #8

I'm so sorry. I talked to my mom early one Sat evening in 2005 redstateblues May 2018 #9

It will get better. Mike Rows His Boat May 2018 #10

Thank you for reaching out, Mike Rows His Boat. pnwmom May 2018 #15

I was 2 thousand miles away when both my parents passed away. Wwcd May 2018 #11

Thank you, my friend. pnwmom May 2018 #14

Yup. Hugs to you too. Wwcd May 2018 #17

My mom passed 2 months ago. Eko May 2018 #12

And it's exhausting to be always trying to hold it together. pnwmom May 2018 #13

Yes it is. Eko May 2018 #21

Oh I'm very sorry. LisaM May 2018 #18

Thank you, LisaM! pnwmom May 2018 #20

Sorry... JoeOtterbein May 2018 #19

The (undeserved) guilt will ease. alwaysinasnit May 2018 #22

I'm so sorry Phoenix61 May 2018 #23

It's okay. You will get through this. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2018 #24

Hugs! radical noodle May 2018 #25

Take care of yourself, pnwmom. kag May 2018 #26

Thank you, kag! pnwmom May 2018 #30

My grief counselor said that happens... Kittycow May 2018 #39

Peace to you and your family riversedge May 2018 #27

Best wishes during your difficult time grantcart May 2018 #28

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother almost 10 years ago, in a similar unexpected fashion. vsrazdem May 2018 #29

When my mom had a medical emergency in FLA, she had to come up sprinkleeninow May 2018 #56

my mother had Alzheimer's.... chillfactor May 2018 #31

You lost your mother before her body finally gave out -- I'm so sorry. pnwmom May 2018 #32

I am so very sorry, pnwmom. I lost my mom a year and a half ago. Silver Gaia May 2018 #33

She was an ice cream lover and I think she mysteriously transferred that to me. pnwmom May 2018 #34

That is so sweet... in more ways than one. Silver Gaia May 2018 #35

Ok you got me with ice cream IADEMO2004 May 2018 #40

i'm so sorry you're going through this orleans May 2018 #36

Thank you so much, orleans. pnwmom May 2018 #37

Please allow yourself to feel whatever comes up. Laffy Kat May 2018 #38

I'm so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner May 2018 #41

So sorry MFM008 May 2018 #42

My heart goes out to you Soxfan58 May 2018 #43

Peace to you and yours, pnwmom. sheshe2 May 2018 #44

My mother died from a brain tumor. NNadir May 2018 #45

I am so sorry, pnwmom! brer cat May 2018 #46

two months since my mom died DonCoquixote May 2018 #47

How are you feeling today? Mike Rows His Boat May 2018 #48

A little better than yesterday. Yes -- that mind loop is something else. pnwmom May 2018 #49

That's what I received! I'd start crying when something reminded me of her, and sprinkleeninow May 2018 #55

I am so sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester May 2018 #50

That seems to be a common theme. The sense of loss never really goes away pnwmom May 2018 #54

My condolences to you. +++++++++ spooky3 May 2018 #51

I'm so sorry! The Velveteen Ocelot May 2018 #52

Hmm. Crutchez_CuiBono May 2018 #53