Bereavement

alwaysinasnit

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22. The (undeserved) guilt will ease.

Wed May 23, 2018, 11:57 PM

May 2018

No matter who the loved one is, there will always be thoughts of things I could have done. I lost my mom 3 years ago. My mother used to mix masa (batter) for flour tortillas in a mixing bowl (hand made tortillas). I never learned how to make them but I use her mixing bowls for other things. Just touching and washing her mixing bowls eventually gave me comfort because she used them so often.

Please don't feel that you have to keep it together. If you need to be alone, please let your family know that it is part of your grieving process, and don't feel guilty for it.

Hugs!!!

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My mom died a month ago. It happened so suddenly [View all] pnwmom May 2018 OP

... RKP5637 May 2018 #1

It's OK and much love to you vercetti2021 May 2018 #2

I went to a meeting this weekend and there was a young woman there pnwmom May 2018 #3

I'm very sorry vercetti2021 May 2018 #6

I'm so sorry. MontanaMama May 2018 #4

Thank you, MontanaMama. pnwmom May 2018 #7

I truly believe your mother is not far away. Frustratedlady May 2018 #5

I need to hope that. I framed a picture that I love, and kept it near. pnwmom May 2018 #16

She heard you, I'm sure of it. fierywoman May 2018 #8

I'm so sorry. I talked to my mom early one Sat evening in 2005 redstateblues May 2018 #9

It will get better. Mike Rows His Boat May 2018 #10

Thank you for reaching out, Mike Rows His Boat. pnwmom May 2018 #15

I was 2 thousand miles away when both my parents passed away. Wwcd May 2018 #11

Thank you, my friend. pnwmom May 2018 #14

Yup. Hugs to you too. Wwcd May 2018 #17

My mom passed 2 months ago. Eko May 2018 #12

And it's exhausting to be always trying to hold it together. pnwmom May 2018 #13

Yes it is. Eko May 2018 #21

Oh I'm very sorry. LisaM May 2018 #18

Thank you, LisaM! pnwmom May 2018 #20

Sorry... JoeOtterbein May 2018 #19

The (undeserved) guilt will ease. alwaysinasnit May 2018 #22

I'm so sorry Phoenix61 May 2018 #23

It's okay. You will get through this. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2018 #24

Hugs! radical noodle May 2018 #25

Take care of yourself, pnwmom. kag May 2018 #26

Thank you, kag! pnwmom May 2018 #30

My grief counselor said that happens... Kittycow May 2018 #39

Peace to you and your family riversedge May 2018 #27

Best wishes during your difficult time grantcart May 2018 #28

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother almost 10 years ago, in a similar unexpected fashion. vsrazdem May 2018 #29

When my mom had a medical emergency in FLA, she had to come up sprinkleeninow May 2018 #56

my mother had Alzheimer's.... chillfactor May 2018 #31

You lost your mother before her body finally gave out -- I'm so sorry. pnwmom May 2018 #32

I am so very sorry, pnwmom. I lost my mom a year and a half ago. Silver Gaia May 2018 #33

She was an ice cream lover and I think she mysteriously transferred that to me. pnwmom May 2018 #34

That is so sweet... in more ways than one. Silver Gaia May 2018 #35

Ok you got me with ice cream IADEMO2004 May 2018 #40

i'm so sorry you're going through this orleans May 2018 #36

Thank you so much, orleans. pnwmom May 2018 #37

Please allow yourself to feel whatever comes up. Laffy Kat May 2018 #38

I'm so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner May 2018 #41

So sorry MFM008 May 2018 #42

My heart goes out to you Soxfan58 May 2018 #43

Peace to you and yours, pnwmom. sheshe2 May 2018 #44

My mother died from a brain tumor. NNadir May 2018 #45

I am so sorry, pnwmom! brer cat May 2018 #46

two months since my mom died DonCoquixote May 2018 #47

How are you feeling today? Mike Rows His Boat May 2018 #48

A little better than yesterday. Yes -- that mind loop is something else. pnwmom May 2018 #49

That's what I received! I'd start crying when something reminded me of her, and sprinkleeninow May 2018 #55

I am so sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester May 2018 #50

That seems to be a common theme. The sense of loss never really goes away pnwmom May 2018 #54

My condolences to you. +++++++++ spooky3 May 2018 #51

I'm so sorry! The Velveteen Ocelot May 2018 #52

Hmm. Crutchez_CuiBono May 2018 #53