My mom died a month ago. It happened so suddenly

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45. My mother died from a brain tumor.

By the time I was able to get back across the country to take care of her, she'd become simple minded and childlike and I doubted she understood anything meaningful or important I might have tried to say.

It was 40 years ago and it still feels like yesterday afternoon.

I recently told a young man who also lost his mother at a young age, it never goes away, but what does happen is that you learn to live with it.

Life is very beautiful especially if one has the enormous pleasure of loving someone. You cannot risk love however if you cannot live with loss. As we are not immortal, one implies the other.

If I learned anything in the last 40 years, it is about forgiving oneself for perceived failure at love. You obviously loved your mother dearly, and whether you believe it or not, she almost certainly knew that. I don't know you and I didn't know your mother, but I know that.

In an often ill perceived way, grief itself is beautiful, inasmuch it only comes with love.

Deepest condolences. I wish you peace.