I'm officially a widow as of this afternoon--update

[Liberty Belle]

8. I am so sorry for your sons and for you.

My father had Alzheimer's and I believe Lewy Body, though he didn't have the official diagnosis. But every symptom was there.

It is a terrible way to die a slow and agonizing death, in the end he starved because he could no longer swallow, was blind, deaf, and couldn't get out of bed. Of course we couldn't put in a feeding tube which could not be removed, so chose hospice instead with enough morphine to make his passing less painful.

As horrible as your ex's death was, he made the choice and having seen the hell that dad went through, it may be the lesser or two evils to just end things before going through that.

If he was abusive for years emotionally, you had every right to end the relationship as he became more combative and unreasonable.

I hope eventually your children will understand that and not blame you for this. Maybe some family counseling would be worthwhile.