Bereavement

firstwife

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78. I am sorry for your loss,

Fri Dec 14, 2018, 05:17 PM

Dec 2018

as well as your sons’. I totally get your mindset. I was married to someone for 30 years who had depression and anxiety, fueled by a steady diet of alcohol. He was also vain and narcissistic. So I spent years dealing with his woes, as well as 2 sons who both inherited his anxiety and depression. I always wondered if I’d find his body. So I left and took a 195 lb monkey off my back 13 years ago. It was like a death, but I had to, to save my own soul and sanity. I’m so sorry your boys have lost their father, they will have to deal with that forever. You did everything you could for him. Go forward and live your life with happiness, joy and expectation. God bless your family.

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