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Bereavement

lettucebe

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5. My take: You can send anyone anything you want. This isn't an equal presents at Christmas type thing

Reply to groundloop (Original post)

Wed Oct 21, 2020, 12:29 PM

Oct 2020

I routinely help family members who don't have much -- why on earth would I feel compelled to do anything for those who are capable of doing for themselves?

If an adult child is upset because their sibling gets something and they don't, they are not good at adulting.

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Opinions on helping out daughter of my late brother [View all] groundloop Oct 2020 OP

Can you send some type of acknowledgement to the better-off sister? Sanity Claws Oct 2020 #1

The only way to avoid any hard feelings is to send them both the same amount. Cousin Dupree Oct 2020 #2

Are the sisters close. Did your brother have a will? 3catwoman3 Oct 2020 #3

Don't meddle the family dynamics between those sisters. procon Oct 2020 #4

She didn't "do nothing", she lives several hours away....... groundloop Oct 2020 #7

My take: You can send anyone anything you want. This isn't an equal presents at Christmas type thing lettucebe Oct 2020 #5

Send equal amounts to both. Cut back on second if necessary at this time. No Vested Interest Oct 2020 #6

I would help out the struggling daughter Wawannabe Oct 2020 #8