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Bereavement

chia

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4. It's okay if you fall apart over a cake, you're still grieving. Five months is so recent, and

Reply to MissMillie (Original post)

Thu Dec 24, 2020, 08:27 AM

Dec 2020

this is your first Christmas without her. Allow yourself to feel whatever your heart feels. As much as it hurts, it's part of your process of healing, which is unique to you. The one thing I remember about bereavement is that the lead-up to the holiday or anniversary is often worse than the day itself. You're in the lead-up to Christmas, I hope Christmas day is better and that you're comforted by good memories of your mom. Sending you much love.

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It's just a stupid cake!!! [View all] MissMillie Dec 2020 OP

i couldnt follow a recipe if my life depended on it...go buy a cake. samnsara Dec 2020 #1

It isn't about the stupid cake,,,, KarenS Dec 2020 #2

((( hugs ))) 3Hotdogs Dec 2020 #3

It's okay if you fall apart over a cake, you're still grieving. Five months is so recent, and chia Dec 2020 #4

((hug)) Its okay to feel the way you do. Grief doesn't have a time limit... WePurrsevere Dec 2020 #5

Sending hugs. I already had a good cry this morning. livetohike Dec 2020 #6

I am so sorry, sending you extra hugs..... FM123 Dec 2020 #7

Mom wouldn't walk away from the cake MissMillie Dec 2020 #9

Yes, I feel closest to my mom in the kitchen too.... FM123 Dec 2020 #11

The first Christmas after mom's passing is hard in the extreme. BComplex Dec 2020 #8

Make that cake in her honor and think how proud she would be of you for doing that... Freedomofspeech Dec 2020 #10

And, what is the name of the cake you are making? Polly Hennessey Dec 2020 #12

White Cake w/ Cranberry Filling and... MissMillie Dec 2020 #13

Just read the recipe and ....yummmm! Phoenix61 Dec 2020 #14

Give yourself a hug, Have hubby read your post, make cake with him if you and mom are ok with that. IADEMO2004 Dec 2020 #15

Holidays constellate bereavement issues, Millie SheltieLover Dec 2020 #16