Bereavement

irisblue

(34,414 posts)

38. I am sorry for your loss

Reply to Dark n Stormy Knight (Original post)

Sat Jan 2, 2021, 08:33 PM

Jan 2021

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

58 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

Sudden death of my brother, 2 months after my father died of pancreatic cancer [View all] Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 OP

Sorry for your losses.....it must be surreal for you. nt OAITW r.2.0 Jan 2021 #1

Thank you. And yes, that's a great word for how it feels. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #6

I'm so sorry mzmolly Jan 2021 #2

I'm very sorry for your loss. MontanaMama Jan 2021 #3

My aunt walk away from me two decades ago because of something I said, that I cannot believe LizBeth Jan 2021 #4

I'm sorry for your loss and that you had to deal with that difficult decision Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #10

Right back at you. LizBeth Jan 2021 #13

Wow. Just... wow. dixiechiken1 Jan 2021 #5

Sometimes when I don't know what to say, I just give up trying Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #8

Oh my God, Dark n Stormy Knight! I am so very sorry for the loss of your brother and father! LaMouffette Jan 2021 #7

Thank you for the kind words. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #15

No need to apologize! I was brought up to be Catholic, too, but it just didn't "take." LaMouffette Jan 2021 #24

Good old Bill Maher. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #32

You're more than welcome! LaMouffette Jan 2021 #43

I'm so sorry Clash City Rocker Jan 2021 #9

Thanks, Clash. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #11

Family... they'll drive you crazy! The widow's behavior was wrong on every imaginable level. The Karadeniz Jan 2021 #12

Thank you, Karadeniz. In many ways you and I are on the same page about all this. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #20

Your mother might provide the motivation for the whole clan to get together amicably... sounds Karadeniz Jan 2021 #23

It's funny you should say that, because that's not at all how her daughters see her. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #35

Well, you know how to pick'em! I really don't know why some people have children if they don't want Karadeniz Jan 2021 #57

I am so sorry iamateacher Jan 2021 #14

I am sorry for you losses. Chainfire Jan 2021 #16

Thank your, Chainfire. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #31

So Faux pas Jan 2021 #17

Faux pas, thank you for your kind reply. I too was the "odd one out" all though my life, Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #22

Sometimes these surprises Turbineguy Jan 2021 #18

I am so sorry UpInArms Jan 2021 #19

Reading this, and your brother's outreach on Christmas Eve impresses to me that your Sister-On-Law TheBlackAdder Jan 2021 #21

Adder, I love that you are thinking deeply about the family dynamics Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #26

That was worse than I thought. TheBlackAdder Jan 2021 #34

I have spent more money on therapists in my life than I care to recall. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #39

People can say some really shitty things after a death, and I'm so... 3catwoman3 Jan 2021 #25

Catwoman, thank you for sharing your experience and for your kind and suportive words. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #29

I'm so sorry... CaptainTruth Jan 2021 #27

So sorry to hear of the situation with siblings... 2naSalit Jan 2021 #28

I'm so sorry, DnSK. area51 Jan 2021 #30

Regardless of what has happened before, you are allowed to feel what you feel. TNNurse Jan 2021 #33

I am sorry you've lost not only your Dad recently, but now also your brother. Fla Dem Jan 2021 #36

Hey Fla, I appreciate your percpetion. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #49

I certainly didn't want to come across as if I had any real understanding Fla Dem Jan 2021 #55

Boundaries, clarity and self compassion. If you can get yourself to focus, the meditation could be JudyM Jan 2021 #56

Sorry for your loss and that you are going through this. You have a right to your feelings. 58Sunliner Jan 2021 #37

Thank you. I know that that means I also have to understand that others have that same right. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #40

Sounds like some of your family doesn't give you the same respect. 58Sunliner Jan 2021 #44

I am sorry for your loss irisblue Jan 2021 #38

I'm so sorry. cate94 Jan 2021 #41

Condolences on the loss of your brother. gademocrat7 Jan 2021 #42

You are experiencing "complex grief" / unresolved issues SheltieLover Jan 2021 #45

I appreciate your reply and suggestions. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #50

You are most welcome SheltieLover Jan 2021 #54

i'm so sorry. barbtries Jan 2021 #46

Barbrires, I am touched by and grateful for your reply. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #52

I am so sorry that you lost your father and brother so tragically and in such a short Tanuki Jan 2021 #47

I'm so sorry. Duppers Jan 2021 #48

I'm very sorry for your double loss dlk Jan 2021 #51

This sounds exceptionally toxic! SheltieLover Jan 2021 #53

In case anyone sees this, I checked in here, but then realized it's not a good idea at the moment. Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2021 #58