Feeling so vulnerable and weirded-out...

[Quakerfriend]

1. Despite all that has gone on over the years, I feel that you

Should embrace the opportunity to try and bring healing for the whole family.
You can’t lose by trying.

When my mother was ailing I called her sister from whom she had been estranged for ~ 40 yrs and let her know what was going on with mom. We had a nice conversation and she seemed happy I had called. I followed up with a hand written card telling her that I was sorry for all the years we had lost together and just how much memories of Xmas eve at her house etc. meant to me. I also let her know that despite the wonderful mother mom had been to me and my sisters, looking back I knew that Mom had left ‘a trail of destruction in her wake’ & that for whatever reason this was her path in life and we were all on that path with her. I told her how much we all loved her despite all the years of not seeing one another etc.

This brought about instant healing. Mom’s sister began visiting her in the nursing home and invited us all to a big family reunion. All of the tensions evaporated almost overnight.

Good luck with whatever you decide and prayers for your mom and bro