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Bereavement

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applegrove

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Thu May 13, 2021, 10:23 PM May 2021

So strange. In the last year i could not send political info or neat ideas [View all]

to my brother cause he was too stressed with online teaching to use up the bandwidth and he lived far away. I did forget at times. But mostly i adjusted my thinking and did not send him stuff. He died in late April. In the last 5 days every time something really salient in politics or current affaires catches me, thoughts of my brother flood. Like my brain now has a facebook link to his soul. Like he's right there. I'm back to thinking of him whenever something is interesting. I don't want to lose this even though it is upsetting. I know grief and at some point in a long while it will not be so upsetting. How do you keep such a relationship going?

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Dear applegrove Backseat Driver May 2021 #1
Thank you. We did not puzzle things out. We just shared. He was a sharer applegrove May 2021 #3
That NJCher May 2021 #12
Wife died five years ago and is still omnipresent. IA8IT May 2021 #2
I hope in 5 years he is still at every 'aha' or 'neat-o' or 'of course' moment. applegrove May 2021 #4
I wish I had the answer too. BigmanPigman May 2021 #5
I will try to reinforce it and think of him and them send an email to the rest of my family. applegrove May 2021 #8
"Like my brain now has a facebook link to his soul." pazzyanne May 2021 #6
Yes. It is a more direct link and even faster than the world wide web. applegrove May 2021 #9
Sorry for your loss as well. pazzyanne May 2021 #21
Sounds like he was your person Tree Lady May 2021 #7
I am close to a few people. My twin brother will get my links and ideas. applegrove May 2021 #10
Of courss he's "right there" SheltieLover May 2021 #11
True this. applegrove May 2021 #16
I did an internship in bereavement at a hospice SheltieLover May 2021 #20
Dear, applegrove. I wish I knew what could make things better. littlemissmartypants May 2021 #13
Vibes to you LMSP. Vibes to you. applegrove May 2021 #17
Google billy fingers NJCher May 2021 #14
Not ready for reading up on grief yet. But thanks. applegrove May 2021 #18
Dreams cate94 May 2021 #15
Sometimes my brother is next to me. Sometimes that he is gone comes to me as a shock. applegrove May 2021 #19
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