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Bereavement

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24. My life with my dad was very easy, we both enjoyed the same things and loved spending time together.

Reply to RFCalifornia (Original post)

Tue Oct 5, 2021, 06:59 PM

Oct 2021

He died in 1986, only 63 years old. Way too early.

I don't have many dreams I can remember, but I still dream of the two, or occasionally 3-4 of us fishing and spending time in his RV.

I hope I dream about him the day I die. I loved and still love my father.

Sometimes dreams are all you have left. Embrace them.

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My dad died a year ago, my mother two years ago [View all] RFCalifornia Oct 2021 OP

Did you seek out bereavement counseling? SheltieLover Oct 2021 #1

No. Like a lot of people I thought "I can handle this on my own" RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #5

If your parents were in palliative or hospice care, SheltieLover Oct 2021 #8

That window has long since passed nt RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #11

They can still provide therapy & likely havve groups SheltieLover Oct 2021 #13

Yes, it's completely normal Rorey Oct 2021 #2

The same with me Siwsan Oct 2021 #6

My dad died of a misdiagnosed brain tumor. At first, in my dreams, he was still wasting away Siwsan Oct 2021 #3

I'm so sorry RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #7

I still have one brother Siwsan Oct 2021 #9

That's good RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #12

Dreams about a recently deceased person you cared about are common. Also common, 3Hotdogs Oct 2021 #4

My dad and I had a very complicated relationship RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #10

He was very proud of you Rorey Oct 2021 #16

Thanks RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #19

And seriously... RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #32

You write about his hitch in the army.... WW II? Korea? Both were about that Silent Generation time. 3Hotdogs Oct 2021 #25

Inbetween those RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #29

There is no right way - it's about you - and I should be lisa58 Oct 2021 #14

You are so right! Rorey Oct 2021 #17

My parents died decades ago and I still dream about them. Midnight Writer Oct 2021 #15

They are beautiful RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #31

You bet. I only had one dream about my dad. I was sitting in a chair with a chair board desk ... marble falls Oct 2021 #18

My father passed away 30 years ago. FuzzyRabbit Oct 2021 #20

Hold on to those because... RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #30

I lost my dad MFM008 Oct 2021 #21

We scattered my mom's ashes off the Golden Gate Bridge RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #22

Good places MFM008 Oct 2021 #23

My life with my dad was very easy, we both enjoyed the same things and loved spending time together. Enter stage left Oct 2021 #24

I will my friend :) RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #27

I think Rebl2 Oct 2021 #26

I get it nt RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #28