Bereavement

mercuryblues

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9. I am sorry for the loss of your parents at such a young age

Reply to Drunken Irishman (Original post)

Sun Nov 21, 2021, 05:57 PM

Nov 2021

Greif is a funny thing. I wish I had the magic words to help you, but everyone copes the best they can.

Here is my story:

My Mom died 13 years ago on Dec 23rd. I think that makes it harder to feel your grief, The holidays are about joy and happiness, when all you want to do is scream and raise your fist in the air in anger.

For years I would get grumpy and easy to anger the week before Christmas. I attributed it to holiday burnout. When I really thought about it, it was because I was denying myself to acknowledge hand mourn my Mom's death, to make Christmas happy for my family.

That was when I decided I would take the time, whenever I felt like it to mourn and honor her in some special way during this time.

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... greatauntoftriplets Nov 2021 #1

Thank you. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #27

I feel so bad for you. I lost my mom over 30 years ago, I was 39 I still cry sometimes Walleye Nov 2021 #2

I am so sorry. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #28

Healing vibes on the way! SheltieLover Nov 2021 #3

Thank you. The hospice team calls me but I never return their calls. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #13

Please do it SheltieLover Nov 2021 #14

Please call hospice. They are experienced, and a certain kind of nice empedocles Nov 2021 #21

After several calls from Hospice, I finally called them 6 months after the death of my Mom. beveeheart Nov 2021 #24

It might be hard for you to see this now, wnylib Nov 2021 #34

your grief is normal, it's different for everyone Skittles Nov 2021 #4

I don't blame myself...but just question whether she could have fought back. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #29

cancer is so insidious Skittles Nov 2021 #40

I know how you feel. BigmanPigman Nov 2021 #5

I took over my mom's dog when she passed. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #30

I'm glad to know that BigmanPigman Nov 2021 #48

Please realize you did the best for your beloved mom with the info you had SheltieLover Nov 2021 #6

This I tell myself. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #31

She likely wasn't aware SheltieLover Nov 2021 #39

Do you have siblings? OAITW r.2.0 Nov 2021 #7

I have an older brother who I rarely speak to. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #32

Sorry to hear. OAITW r.2.0 Nov 2021 #37

Blessings, Irishman! cilla4progress Nov 2021 #8

Thank you. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #33

I am sorry for the loss of your parents at such a young age mercuryblues Nov 2021 #9

I am sorry for your loss Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #35

Just remember one thing mercuryblues Nov 2021 #59

Grief hits all of us differently. Unexpected deaths really are much more flying_wahini Nov 2021 #10

Oh, man. I'm so sorry. That is so hard. And that first holiday season is Scrivener7 Nov 2021 #11

First I am sorry for Rebl2 Nov 2021 #12

We grieve with you, Irishman Bayard Nov 2021 #15

I know MFM008 Nov 2021 #16

I can only imagine how you feel Jerry2144 Nov 2021 #17

I am sending you a big hug and love. MLAA Nov 2021 #18

Surely I speak for most of us if I say bucolic_frolic Nov 2021 #19

I'm so sorry, barbtries Nov 2021 #20

.... Skittles Nov 2021 #41

My wife had a similar story. Grumpy Old Guy Nov 2021 #22

It doesn't matter what age you become an orphan jmbar2 Nov 2021 #23

I went through a similar situation, my mom passed three months ago, my dad many years ago Escurumbele Nov 2021 #25

I still miss my parents. Mom was cleared to teach aerobics, then had GPV Nov 2021 #26

I am sorry. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #36

Thank you. It was a long time ago. Daily life is easier, but I still tear up at times. I hope GPV Nov 2021 #60

Sending you healing vibes Wicked Blue Nov 2021 #38

Oh, Irishman, this is hard BlueSky3 Nov 2021 #42

I am so sorry. Please return the hospice calls. LoisB Nov 2021 #43

. denbot Nov 2021 #44

I am very sorry for your losses Moostache Nov 2021 #45

You know, the grief never goes away, but trust me, son, you learn to live with it because... NNadir Nov 2021 #46

We're on your side. Tetrachloride Nov 2021 #47

I, too, had to make the decision to put my mom in hospice. She lasted two weeks. She passed on 7 alwaysinasnit Nov 2021 #49

So sorry.... paleotn Nov 2021 #50

I am so so sorry mgardener Nov 2021 #51

I am so so sorry mgardener Nov 2021 #52

Holding you in the light! n/t KatK Nov 2021 #53

I am so sorry for your loss childfreebychoice Nov 2021 #54

Awwwww, sweetie, I'm so sorry about this. So sorry about this struggle you have to face. calimary Nov 2021 #55

Your parents never leave you and are with you always Cozmo Nov 2021 #56

The firsts are hard to get through Marthe48 Nov 2021 #57

all we can offer is virtual hugs and markie Nov 2021 #58