Tough times

[Escurumbele]

25. I went through a similar situation, my mom passed three months ago, my dad many years ago

But like you, my Mom was in a state where she was no longer here, her body was but not her. I know how hard it is, and we never get over it, we will miss them for the rest of our lives, but when the body is here and the person is no longer with it, the best thing is to let them go because they are already gone. The tough part is of course, that we cannot tell whether they are listening, thinking, recognizing our voices, but if they are I am very sure they don't want to be in a situation where there is no longer quality of life for them.

I don't intend to calm your sadness, no one can, but I can tell you what has worked for me.

Once in a while I will look at photos, videos of both my parents, and then I smile thinking about the beautiful times we had, the love between us, the serious talks with my dad, the laughs with my mom (she was very funny and knew a lot of family stories), and all that makes me feel good. There are times when even while I am laughing my eyes go watery, but that is part of the process, allow the process to happen, it is OK to be sad, but focus on the good things more, remember that we will all have our day, and our kids will most probably go through the same sorrow, but if we lead a good life and give a lot of love to our family and real friends, all will be well.

Be sure of something, I am sure your parents always wanted the best for you, and right now the best is to move on with the next chapters of your life (even get married if you find the right person), remember the good times, the good advise they gave you, know they are still looking for you, and they want you to be happy.

Take care and be good.