Bereavement

BlueSky3

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42. Oh, Irishman, this is hard

Reply to Drunken Irishman (Original post)

Sun Nov 21, 2021, 07:32 PM

Nov 2021

I lost my parents when I was 30 and 31. Grief is hard, and it took me about three years to get better days. Over time, I found that although they had passed away, they weren't really gone. I just couldn't pick up the phone and talk to them anymore.

It's been many years since then and I still think of them often and sometimes see them in my dreams.

I'm sorry you've lost your parents. Hope a (((((((hug))))) helps.

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... greatauntoftriplets Nov 2021 #1

Thank you. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #27

I feel so bad for you. I lost my mom over 30 years ago, I was 39 I still cry sometimes Walleye Nov 2021 #2

I am so sorry. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #28

Healing vibes on the way! SheltieLover Nov 2021 #3

Thank you. The hospice team calls me but I never return their calls. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #13

Please do it SheltieLover Nov 2021 #14

Please call hospice. They are experienced, and a certain kind of nice empedocles Nov 2021 #21

After several calls from Hospice, I finally called them 6 months after the death of my Mom. beveeheart Nov 2021 #24

It might be hard for you to see this now, wnylib Nov 2021 #34

your grief is normal, it's different for everyone Skittles Nov 2021 #4

I don't blame myself...but just question whether she could have fought back. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #29

cancer is so insidious Skittles Nov 2021 #40

I know how you feel. BigmanPigman Nov 2021 #5

I took over my mom's dog when she passed. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #30

I'm glad to know that BigmanPigman Nov 2021 #48

Please realize you did the best for your beloved mom with the info you had SheltieLover Nov 2021 #6

This I tell myself. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #31

She likely wasn't aware SheltieLover Nov 2021 #39

Do you have siblings? OAITW r.2.0 Nov 2021 #7

I have an older brother who I rarely speak to. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #32

Sorry to hear. OAITW r.2.0 Nov 2021 #37

Blessings, Irishman! cilla4progress Nov 2021 #8

Thank you. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #33

I am sorry for the loss of your parents at such a young age mercuryblues Nov 2021 #9

I am sorry for your loss Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #35

Just remember one thing mercuryblues Nov 2021 #59

Grief hits all of us differently. Unexpected deaths really are much more flying_wahini Nov 2021 #10

Oh, man. I'm so sorry. That is so hard. And that first holiday season is Scrivener7 Nov 2021 #11

First I am sorry for Rebl2 Nov 2021 #12

We grieve with you, Irishman Bayard Nov 2021 #15

I know MFM008 Nov 2021 #16

I can only imagine how you feel Jerry2144 Nov 2021 #17

I am sending you a big hug and love. MLAA Nov 2021 #18

Surely I speak for most of us if I say bucolic_frolic Nov 2021 #19

I'm so sorry, barbtries Nov 2021 #20

.... Skittles Nov 2021 #41

My wife had a similar story. Grumpy Old Guy Nov 2021 #22

It doesn't matter what age you become an orphan jmbar2 Nov 2021 #23

I went through a similar situation, my mom passed three months ago, my dad many years ago Escurumbele Nov 2021 #25

I still miss my parents. Mom was cleared to teach aerobics, then had GPV Nov 2021 #26

I am sorry. Drunken Irishman Nov 2021 #36

Thank you. It was a long time ago. Daily life is easier, but I still tear up at times. I hope GPV Nov 2021 #60

Sending you healing vibes Wicked Blue Nov 2021 #38

Oh, Irishman, this is hard BlueSky3 Nov 2021 #42

I am so sorry. Please return the hospice calls. LoisB Nov 2021 #43

. denbot Nov 2021 #44

I am very sorry for your losses Moostache Nov 2021 #45

You know, the grief never goes away, but trust me, son, you learn to live with it because... NNadir Nov 2021 #46

We're on your side. Tetrachloride Nov 2021 #47

I, too, had to make the decision to put my mom in hospice. She lasted two weeks. She passed on 7 alwaysinasnit Nov 2021 #49

So sorry.... paleotn Nov 2021 #50

I am so so sorry mgardener Nov 2021 #51

I am so so sorry mgardener Nov 2021 #52

Holding you in the light! n/t KatK Nov 2021 #53

I am so sorry for your loss childfreebychoice Nov 2021 #54

Awwwww, sweetie, I'm so sorry about this. So sorry about this struggle you have to face. calimary Nov 2021 #55

Your parents never leave you and are with you always Cozmo Nov 2021 #56

The firsts are hard to get through Marthe48 Nov 2021 #57

all we can offer is virtual hugs and markie Nov 2021 #58