Bereavement

Bayard

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30. Give yourself permission to grieve

Wed Feb 9, 2022, 11:25 PM

Feb 2022

Everyone does in different ways, and sleeping is a big part of dealing with it, and the depression involved. Feel free to whack anybody that tells you to just snap out of it.

We are here for you, Wicked Blue. Years ago, when I had a different name on here, another member paid for me to fly back to KY from CA for my Dad's funeral. I was down and out at the time. Mostly out of it. He actually made the flight arrangements, and took care of everything. I don't know if he is still on DU, because I don't remember the name, or much of anything from that time, but I will be eternally grateful to him. (Please PM me if you remember being an angel, when I was Dodadem).

DU'ers are the best! Lean on us.

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Is it normal to just want to sleep all the time? [View all] Wicked Blue Feb 2022 OP

I am so sorry for your pain and grief. MLAA Feb 2022 #1

Thank you, MLAA Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #2

It's ok for you to be sad right now, you loved your brother, it's understandable. cayugafalls Feb 2022 #3

You're right. Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #4

It is. Drum Feb 2022 #5

Thanks, Drum Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #6

Virtual Hugs to you. Srkdqltr Feb 2022 #7

You are so right Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #8

A lot on your plate.. Deuxcents Feb 2022 #9

It's normal to feel low for a while. Haggard Celine Feb 2022 #10

Sending hugs & good energy your way. KarenS Feb 2022 #11

Blue, I am so sorry for your loss questionseverything Feb 2022 #12

Of course it's normal to feel exhausted SheltieLover Feb 2022 #13

It might be leighbythesea2 Feb 2022 #14

I am SO SORRY oldtime dfl_er Feb 2022 #15

I'm sorry for your pain and loss ybbor Feb 2022 #16

I'm sorry. JoeOtterbein Feb 2022 #17

I'm so sorry. Chellee Feb 2022 #18

I lost my wife last February 14 of 2021, so I know how you feel.... William Gustafson Feb 2022 #19

So many good responses from your friends here on DU..... Hulk Feb 2022 #20

You answered your own question in the first line. You are mentally and emotionally worn out. LoisB Feb 2022 #21

Sending virtual hugs and vibes for strength and healing and endurance for you niyad Feb 2022 #22

So sorry for your pain cally Feb 2022 #23

As the Buddhists say, this too will pass. gab13by13 Feb 2022 #24

It really hurts losing a sibling.... Dan Feb 2022 #25

I feel you. I haven't been able to work for weeks. CaptainTruth Feb 2022 #26

I so understand that grief induced exhaustion Farmer-Rick Feb 2022 #33

My Sympathies... GB_RN Feb 2022 #27

A death announcement on Facebook is not an invitation to call you. Call your friend. SunSeeker Feb 2022 #28

I agree with SunSeeker. A facebook announcement may not be enough. Many of us don't know how to ratchiweenie Feb 2022 #34

So true! SunSeeker Feb 2022 #36

So sorry you are going through this Tree Lady Feb 2022 #29

Give yourself permission to grieve Bayard Feb 2022 #30

As others have said: you are exhausted by your losses. Take time. Do call Hospice & see if ... Hekate Feb 2022 #31

Grieving is such hard work. BadgerMom Feb 2022 #32

Yes, it's normal. hippywife Feb 2022 #35