Bereavement

barbtries

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75. you're doing good work Jarqui

Thu Jul 6, 2023, 04:24 PM

Jul 2023

a lot of times with this type of activism you never see the change you made. it's like you planted a seed then you never get to find out if it grew. When I used to do VIPs for MADD it was always on the understanding that if one life was saved it was well worth it.

I am so sorry about your friend. I had a friend many, many years ago, who drank herself to death at the age of 25. My own mother's life was cut short. Alcohol is so frickin' popular but it has caused more mayhem, tragedy, and loss in my life than any other thing.

I'm the opposite of you when it comes to visiting her grave: right after she died, I was there several times a week. Now I can only go when i'm in CA, but I actively miss it when I can't, especially on her days.

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She isn't 43 years old today. [View all] barbtries Jul 2023 OP

Hugggggggs. There are no words, but know that we are here for you. niyad Jul 2023 #1

thank you niyad. barbtries Jul 2023 #2

The general craziness has me even more short-tempered than normal, so niyad Jul 2023 #6

A beautiful tribute. I'm sorry for your pain. NNadir Jul 2023 #3

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My heart goes out to you. badhair77 Jul 2023 #5

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Time with your furry friend is usually a gift. 💕 badhair77 Jul 2023 #49

I am so so sorry for your great loss irisblue Jul 2023 #7

thank you irisblue! barbtries Jul 2023 #11

I have known personal grief TNNurse Jul 2023 #8

thank you TNNurse. barbtries Jul 2023 #12

Some losses we never get over. When they are young and have the whole world ahead of them, flying_wahini Jul 2023 #9

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She was so pretty, very renaissance look to her. flying_wahini Jul 2023 #13

she would have loved that. barbtries Jul 2023 #16

I'm so sorry for your broken heart. 1WorldHope Jul 2023 #15

1WorldHope, barbtries Jul 2023 #17

It is my secret terror. It is wrong and should never happen. 1WorldHope Jul 2023 #19

Every time I see one of your posts, regardless of... 3catwoman3 Jul 2023 #18

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Such a beautiful and poignant tribute. calimary Jul 2023 #20

Thank you Calimary. barbtries Jul 2023 #28

So very sorry, barbtries gademocrat7 Jul 2023 #21

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I am so, so sorry. mgardener Jul 2023 #22

... Sky Jewels Jul 2023 #24

oh mgardener barbtries Jul 2023 #31

Sending gentle, comforting vibes to hug you. MLAA Jul 2023 #23

Thank you MLAA barbtries Jul 2023 #51

What heartache to lose a child, so loved and beautiful in heart and spirit. Fla Dem Jul 2023 #25

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Iam Very sorry for what you have had to go through. I send you hugs and all my love . Naio Jul 2023 #27

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So sorry for your loss Barb. I can't imagine. This is a lovely tribute. Thank you Evolve Dammit Jul 2023 #29

thank you Evolve Dammit! barbtries Jul 2023 #66

If only... Evolve Dammit Jul 2023 #68

yeah. barbtries Jul 2023 #74

Hear ya. They want us back to the dark ages feudal system. Take care and hope you're "ok." Evolve Dammit Jul 2023 #100

Aw, she was precious wendyb-NC Jul 2023 #32

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Hi Barb wendyb-NC Jul 2023 #61

I am so sorry. What a beautiful young lady. Gone much too soon but still here as long as those LoisB Jul 2023 #33

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You look just like her. You get to see her every time you see your reflection. You're being ... marble falls Jul 2023 #34

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I searched for words that might soothe Jarqui Jul 2023 #35

Thank you Jarqui. barbtries Jul 2023 #58

38 years ago, I lost my best friend to alcohol Jarqui Jul 2023 #70

you're doing good work Jarqui barbtries Jul 2023 #75

I do individual cases Jarqui Jul 2023 #92

I am so sorry. pandr32 Jul 2023 #36

thank you pandr32! barbtries Jul 2023 #60

Your love for her radiates from the screen Wild blueberry Jul 2023 #37

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Rebekah-Marie was a beautiful young woman. riverbendviewgal Jul 2023 #38

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There is no greater pain than losing a child. Grumpy Old Guy Jul 2023 #39

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We have a kid who doesn't talk to us. Grumpy Old Guy Jul 2023 #86

i'm sorry to hear that. barbtries Jul 2023 #87

That's sad. Grumpy Old Guy Jul 2023 #90

I am so sorry. stage left Jul 2023 #40

I never had a child to lose, but I have shared the loss of others, and.. TreasonousBastard Jul 2023 #41

Oh I am so sorry for your loss. Maraya1969 Jul 2023 #42

thank you Maraya1969 barbtries Jul 2023 #77

Heartbreaking--I know the pain crimycarny Jul 2023 #43

crimycarny, barbtries Jul 2023 #78

Beautiful woman.. forever young.. mountain grammy Jul 2023 #44

🕯️ Duppers Jul 2023 #45

I'm... JoeOtterbein Jul 2023 #46

What a beautiful memorial of your dear daughter, barbtries. 🕯️ thatcrowwoman Jul 2023 #47

I misspelled Bekah's name and had no success editing it. I'm so sorry. thatcrowwoman Jul 2023 #73

thatcrowwoman, barbtries Jul 2023 #80

What a beautiful young woman (both of you). Lonestarblue Jul 2023 #48

Bekah looks absolutely... luminous (lovely from the inside out). deurbano Jul 2023 #50

Thank you deurbano barbtries Jul 2023 #82

Thank you, and yes, UC Irvine. deurbano Jul 2023 #84

i am too, barbtries Jul 2023 #85

Hugs and love. My heart is with you. Goddessartist Jul 2023 #57

thank you Goddessartist barbtries Jul 2023 #81

she was lovely Skittles Jul 2023 #59

I am so sorry UpInArms Jul 2023 #63

Hugs to you Duncanpup Jul 2023 #64

A lovely tribute redqueen Jul 2023 #65

I looked to what happened... Lithos Jul 2023 #67

yes, she was killed. barbtries Jul 2023 #79

Beautiful daughter & Beartiful Cha Jul 2023 #69

thank you Cha! barbtries Jul 2023 #83

I'm so sorry Bettie Jul 2023 #71

(((🧡))) Deuxcents Jul 2023 #88

I am sorry for your loss mercuryblues Jul 2023 #89

Thanks for sharing these photos FakeNoose Jul 2023 #91

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I'm so sorry, barbtries. cilla4progress Jul 2023 #94

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Barb, my deepest condolences COL Mustard Jul 2023 #96

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Such a beautiful tribute. Hugs to you. I am so sorry for your loss and the grief that never ends. LiberalLoner Jul 2023 #97

I'm so sorry. yardwork Jul 2023 #99

thank you yardwork. barbtries Jul 2023 #101

I'm glad to hear that. You deserve a place that brings some peace. yardwork Jul 2023 #102

Beautiful daughter. Beautiful tribute. So sorry for your loss. Dark n Stormy Knight Sep 2023 #103

Thank you so much. barbtries Sep 2023 #104