Bereavement

lonely bird

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13. We had a different problem

Wed Oct 18, 2023, 10:27 AM

Oct 2023

Our father abused our mother. She died many years ago from cancer. The whole thing resulted in all of us getting counseling and also becoming somewhat estranged. Not due to anything anyone of us did but more like wanting to stay away from family drama. Our father remarried after several years to a nice woman. Still he abused her a bit emotionally. When he finally died we had to deal with their house because she couldn’t afford to stay there and the house had been willed to us. There was a life estate attached to it as well as a loan. We ended up getting it sold but it cost us about 10 grand to do so. Drove my one brother nuts.

Family stuff can really suck.

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There is already drama & angst over clearing out my Moms' apartment [View all] irisblue Oct 2023 OP

So sorry you are going through this leftieNanner Oct 2023 #1

I'm sorry. onecaliberal Oct 2023 #2

In times like this, it brings out the best in people. Deuxcents Oct 2023 #3

Sibling catastrophes are normal at this time. Voltaire2 Oct 2023 #4

Quite true. LastDemocratInSC Oct 2023 #10

Hugs to you Duncanpup Oct 2023 #5

Winding up an estate can bring out some bad behavior in some relatives, heirs, Ocelot II Oct 2023 #6

My heart goes out to you and your family. BoomaofBandM Oct 2023 #7

I read that during the cleaning out process MOMFUDSKI Oct 2023 #8

My sisters Rebl2 Oct 2023 #9

I found SpamWyzer Oct 2023 #11

I've seen it happen in so many families radical noodle Oct 2023 #12

We had a different problem lonely bird Oct 2023 #13

My RB stole over $40K from our mother. OMGWTF Oct 2023 #14

The least favorite child often mucks up the passing Ponietz Oct 2023 #15

From my observation RB was her favorite child from early childhood on irisblue Oct 2023 #17

Some family members act like vultures. It is really sickening. Hugs to you. iluvtennis Oct 2023 #16

I am so sorry that one member of your family is making a very hard necessity even harder. appleannie1 Oct 2023 #18

I am so sorry that one member of your family is making a very hard necessity even harder. appleannie1 Oct 2023 #19

It's sad and painful when family members throw unnecessary difficulties into the mix after a loved Martin68 Oct 2023 #20

I'm so glad I was an only child because deaths seem to bring out the worst in some catbyte Oct 2023 #21