I'm in MN for my mother's funeral

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11. My condolences...

I can relate as that is a similar story for my mom's passing. I never intended to be there but it also happened during the early days of covid which made things much worse.

Your idea of taking a respite, if you can take a day, a weekend and just go have your solitude, do it, you're on the right track. You won't get all your answers during that time but you will find threads to follow that will lead you to the resolve you need to carry on with a sense of purpose.

I came to some resolve after a few weeks as I was ready for her to go, she was ready to go and it happened. Her life doesn't suck anymore. My sisters can have their lives back, they cared for her for over ten years and it cost them dearly in countless ways. But mostly, she is no longer suffering and we are not in distress over it anymore. When someone of such advanced age passes, it's usually for the better for all involved in one way or another and that's how life works.

Take your time to mourn, you deserve it. It's a necessary part of the process. Your DU family is here for you so please don't feel too detached.