There is a constant melancholy in losing a spouse. I realize many others have lost a husband or wife.

[Marthe48]

5. My husband died in January 2017

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I have marked the date with a picture or comment on fb every year. Except this year. Because I flubbed the date. So I told his picture I was sorry.
I have realized in the last year that the sharp edges of loss are getting covered with some kind of protective fuzziness, so my reality isn't as bleak as it has been. Maybe with more time, things will feel easier for each of you who have mentioned that it hasn't gotten easier.
I am ok being solo. I am comfortable knowing that if I met someone, it is unlikely that I could offer anyone what I gave to my dear husband. But I'm always cheering on people who go from living the half life of grief and move back to light filled sunny hours.
As always, Duncanpup, you are a decent, principled man, and even if you always keep part of your heart for your dear wife, any lady in the here and now is getting the real deal.
Hope you get to follow through on your plans to retire and travel.