are you happily alone?

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15. I subscribe to Oscar Wilde's views on solitude

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"A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude without providing you with company."

I prefer solitude to company except where it is business/unavoidable. Due to circumstances I have not felt I had enough of it in the last decade. Now I am sort of resigned to a baseline level of disruption at least temporarily, but I do prefer solitude (except were the company on offer that scintillating!)

I don't even like the net much since it became social. I was originally only online
for two things: work* and political armchair slacktivism. Over the last decade however, even I developed Stockholme Syndrome wrt the hyperconnected world. Thankfully it is fading. I have a couple of very close friends-that aside I find company a bit exhausting. I never feel like myself except when I am alone or with my closest friends. Now that I do not even drink (except that lame social drinking stuff), I really don't get socializing..

I actually kinda liked that aspect of the pandemic. A built in excuse for avoiding company .

I find it very soothing to be both alone and offline (save for contact from my few close friends).

*: In spite of all the Si Valley palaver about tech/connection and productivity, with rare exceptions, I find any sort of communication technology net disruptive wrt just about any task that requires long hours of intense focus. I am trying to build that in this noisy, overly connected world. It is an uphill task, but looking more hopeful lately...