Elder-caregivers
In reply to the discussion: Fuck me, man! I don't wish this shit on anyone. [View all]Buckeye_Democrat
(15,137 posts)My father suffered from dementia, and that was so hard.
My mother could help at that point since she was still mentally healthy despite her age.
My brother and me, who provided almost all of the help among all of our siblings, were basically relieved when our father finally passed away from a massive stroke. That sounds horrible, but it's the truth.
Then our mother suffered a stroke about a month later, and her mental state also significantly declined in the following years. Even worse than our father by the time she passed away!
I feel like it took years off the lives of me and my brother -- who was legally blind while living with them, so my eyes were needed frequently! I couldn't have moved away from this area during all of those years without feeling terribly guilty about it.
Meanwhile, our siblings were regularly enjoying their far less stressful family events... which was always their excuse to never help us in the first place.
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