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Elder-caregivers
In reply to the discussion: Fuck me, man! I don't wish this shit on anyone. [View all]Bmoboy
(443 posts)28. everybody has stories
My mom took care of her father-in-law for about a year as he died from cancer. She had help from the retired nurse next door.
Then my mom took care of my dad after his stroke for three months before he died, with help from the former corpsman next door.
My mom passed quickly in hospice after a massive stroke.
My wife moved in with her mother to care for her mom in her last three months of life with drop in aides.
Now my daughter-in-law has been diagnosed with invasive breast cancer and my son gets to care for her and their son who has Down's.
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I feel for you. Mom died 7 years ago but she lived with Alzheimer's for about 15 years before that.
alwaysinasnit
May 2021
#2
Some other folks who have gone through this here are offering excellent advice.
Diamond_Dog
May 2021
#13
Taking care of elder people is never easy and not everyone is suited to do it.
appleannie1
May 2021
#20
Sorry to her that. I had older parents and lost them a long time ago. I have always been jealous
brewens
May 2021
#7
Respect for taking this on. Just know your limits. Be strong. Give Mrs Glam lots of hugs.
BoomaofBandM
May 2021
#11
I can relate to what you are going through, my wife's parents have dementia, 90+ years old
turbinetree
May 2021
#30
My mother didn't have Alzheimer's, but what she had was virtually indistinguishable.
BobTheSubgenius
May 2021
#31
There's lots of help out there. Facilities with Memory Care units can be excellent resources.
littlemissmartypants
May 2021
#39