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Elder-caregivers
In reply to the discussion: Fuck me, man! I don't wish this shit on anyone. [View all]flotsam
(3,268 posts)36. Rule one: No fucking guilt!
Been there. Do what you can but beyond that you simply can't. As my Mom faded my truck driver brother converted himself into a tender personal care nurse for a year and a half, and then two, years later, when he was stricken with cancer and over the next three years I did the same. He amazed me and then I amazed myself. And he left me a letter saying "Fuck guilt, I know the help you gave me and I love you for it. I know what you do will be every bit of what you are able to do." He was right. I did my best. No one owes more.
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I feel for you. Mom died 7 years ago but she lived with Alzheimer's for about 15 years before that.
alwaysinasnit
May 2021
#2
Some other folks who have gone through this here are offering excellent advice.
Diamond_Dog
May 2021
#13
Taking care of elder people is never easy and not everyone is suited to do it.
appleannie1
May 2021
#20
Sorry to her that. I had older parents and lost them a long time ago. I have always been jealous
brewens
May 2021
#7
Respect for taking this on. Just know your limits. Be strong. Give Mrs Glam lots of hugs.
BoomaofBandM
May 2021
#11
I can relate to what you are going through, my wife's parents have dementia, 90+ years old
turbinetree
May 2021
#30
My mother didn't have Alzheimer's, but what she had was virtually indistinguishable.
BobTheSubgenius
May 2021
#31
There's lots of help out there. Facilities with Memory Care units can be excellent resources.
littlemissmartypants
May 2021
#39