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Elder-caregivers

LudwigPastorius

(10,847 posts)

28. My brother lives in town, and recently retired, but...

Reply to Habibi (Original post)

Sat Mar 5, 2022, 10:22 PM

Mar 2022

after mom had a stroke and now needs help 24/7, he has informed me that he will not be available to watch her when I go to work.

I freelance, so I have been taking only enough work to pay my bills (about 16 hours a week). But today, I had to call and cancel everything I had on the books, including a 2 week stint that would have netted me about $5,000.

Between SS and her savings, mom will be OK, but I'm incredibly stressed about how I am going to make a living/pay my health insurance and bills.

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Just curious about everyone's story. How many are [View all] Habibi Jun 2014 OP

I've got distant support. politicat Jun 2014 #1

I'm glad your situation is "reasonably manageable." Habibi Jun 2014 #2

Blog xecaps Oct 2014 #20

Are you saying that your state somehow pays for assisted living? I don't know what you mean pnwmom Oct 2014 #22

No, the state doesn't pay. We do. Her former state regs put her in LTC. politicat Oct 2014 #24

pretty much alone here Alameda Jun 2014 #3

Do you have any supportive resources? Habibi Jun 2014 #4

Resources for respite: politicat Jun 2014 #5

I think that "first rule of caregiving" is awesome and yet Habibi Jun 2014 #6

What xecaps Oct 2014 #23

Am I sure about what? Habibi Oct 2014 #25

Mostly alone alcina Jul 2014 #7

Vent away! and welcome! Habibi Jul 2014 #8

Thank you, Habibi alcina Jul 2014 #9

Isn't it, though? Habibi Jul 2014 #10

wow xecaps Oct 2014 #21

You hit a sore spot with that -- Hell Hath No Fury Aug 2014 #11

Ugh, I'm sorry for your situation. Habibi Aug 2014 #12

Thanks for the support -- Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #13

Venting is good! Habibi Oct 2014 #15

I live with my grandson and his family. I also get help with some of my care. I get rides to health jwirr Oct 2014 #14

Very important to accept help Habibi Oct 2014 #16

I ended up placing her in a foster care home which I was fortunate enough to have trained myself. jwirr Oct 2014 #17

In so many cases Iwillnevergiveup Oct 2014 #18

I *do* have an Aunt nearby Aerows Oct 2014 #26

Going alone Aerows Oct 2014 #19

im alone... samnsara Apr 2017 #27

My brother lives in town, and recently retired, but... LudwigPastorius Mar 2022 #28