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DURHAM D

(32,878 posts)
9. Unfortunately I have dealt with this.
Fri Nov 29, 2019, 01:15 PM
Nov 2019

I always tell everyone to just go where they are.

Don't correct them.

My brother never understood this. He was always correcting my mother, told her she is wrong or asking her a difficult question about something in her past. It upset her.

I lived in another part of the county and flew in every 4 or 5 weeks to visit. My mother was often in one of those lift chairs when I went in to see her. I would crawl into her lap using the chair arms to support my weight. She immediately became a mother holding her child. She called me by my name. It was like she was 22 and I was 2. It made her very happy.

At that time she no longer recognized or acknowledged my siblings who saw her almost daily. Then one day while I was visiting my sister crawled into the bed with her. My mother immediately held her and called her by name. She died a few days later.

Just go to where they are.



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