Elder-caregivers

Habibi

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12. Ugh, I'm sorry for your situation.

Tue Aug 26, 2014, 05:12 AM

Aug 2014

Lots of caregivers neglect their own needs in the flurry of responsibilities foisted on them by the recipient, so I'm really glad to hear you're getting some help along those lines. Maybe your professional can help you stand up to your mother about getting in some outside help. That may sound harsh, but elders sometimes don't seem to realize the toll their needs take on the caregiver. Or care, in some cases. You have the right to live your life and to take care of yourself. Because if you get sick, then what happens to Mom? And after she's gone, what will be left?

Hang in there! Feel free to PM me if you need a sounding board. Or post here too, of course.

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Just curious about everyone's story. How many are [View all] Habibi Jun 2014 OP

I've got distant support. politicat Jun 2014 #1

I'm glad your situation is "reasonably manageable." Habibi Jun 2014 #2

Blog xecaps Oct 2014 #20

Are you saying that your state somehow pays for assisted living? I don't know what you mean pnwmom Oct 2014 #22

No, the state doesn't pay. We do. Her former state regs put her in LTC. politicat Oct 2014 #24

pretty much alone here Alameda Jun 2014 #3

Do you have any supportive resources? Habibi Jun 2014 #4

Resources for respite: politicat Jun 2014 #5

I think that "first rule of caregiving" is awesome and yet Habibi Jun 2014 #6

What xecaps Oct 2014 #23

Am I sure about what? Habibi Oct 2014 #25

Mostly alone alcina Jul 2014 #7

Vent away! and welcome! Habibi Jul 2014 #8

Thank you, Habibi alcina Jul 2014 #9

Isn't it, though? Habibi Jul 2014 #10

wow xecaps Oct 2014 #21

You hit a sore spot with that -- Hell Hath No Fury Aug 2014 #11

Ugh, I'm sorry for your situation. Habibi Aug 2014 #12

Thanks for the support -- Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #13

Venting is good! Habibi Oct 2014 #15

I live with my grandson and his family. I also get help with some of my care. I get rides to health jwirr Oct 2014 #14

Very important to accept help Habibi Oct 2014 #16

I ended up placing her in a foster care home which I was fortunate enough to have trained myself. jwirr Oct 2014 #17

In so many cases Iwillnevergiveup Oct 2014 #18

I *do* have an Aunt nearby Aerows Oct 2014 #26

Going alone Aerows Oct 2014 #19

im alone... samnsara Apr 2017 #27

My brother lives in town, and recently retired, but... LudwigPastorius Mar 2022 #28