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no_hypocrisy

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1. Truth and Gospel.
Sat Nov 23, 2024, 06:55 AM
Nov 23

In a microcosm, I understand this concept well.

Our father was a relentless authoritarian. While he never hit us, he kept us off balance with fear and unpredictability. The fear was real; it wasn't paranoia. The threats weren't explicit, but they were easily extrapolated.

At our nadir, I had quit my job to enter law school. I didn't apply for a scholarship b/c Dad assured me he would pay the tuition. But two weeks before school commenced, Dad got mad at me for something I didn't do. He took me out to dinner to tell me he wouldn't be paying the tuition. So, no job/salary and no law school. And he smirked at me. Smirked!

Long ago, I learned that fear was the enemy. Even if I were taken aback, never EVER show fear to your adversary. One step after another after another. That was courage without overt gestures.

BTW, my father backed down and paid for the law school. He never apologized but then again, I wasn't expecting one.

My point: You don't have to necessarily stand up to a bully. You simply don't give any ground. Sometimes that's enough.

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