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duncang

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5. Really feel sad for your loss

Wed Oct 30, 2024, 03:37 AM

Oct 30

Last year my wife of 49 years passed away. Telling others what happened was hard. I don’t know what to say except try to keep yourself going. It may seem like everything is expected of you. Things may seem like they have to be taken care of now. Like me you may have things that may seem to be addressed immediately. But try to give yourself time to help yourself.

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My husband collapsed and died tonight. [View all] 1monster Oct 30 OP

Deepest condolences BWdem4life Oct 30 #1

With You Roy Rolling Oct 30 #2

My deepest condolences. niyad Oct 30 #3

I am so sorry. TSExile Oct 30 #4

Really feel sad for your loss duncang Oct 30 #5

Wrapping virtual arms around you cilla4progress Oct 30 #6

what a cruel disease Skittles Oct 30 #7

Thak you so much for this. jaxexpat Oct 30 #8

I am so sorry for your loss. Silver Gaia Oct 30 #9

im so sorry BlueWaveNeverEnd Oct 30 #10

Our deepest condolences flying-skeleton Oct 30 #11

Deepest Condolences to you and your family. pazzyanne Oct 30 #12

Nine years ago I went through a much similar night tavernier Oct 30 #13

That is platinum advice right there. All of it. We don't talk about death nearly enough. Maru Kitteh Oct 30 #142

Thanks. My widowed lady pals surrounded me immediately tavernier Oct 30 #161

You don't know how you feel... BigmanPigman Oct 30 #14

Holding you, your son, and your stepson in the light. Earthrise Oct 30 #15

Iam so so sorry for your great loss irisblue Oct 30 #16

My love and thoughts to you. I am so sorry. Doodley Oct 30 #17

Hugs to you mercuryblues Oct 30 #18

I am so sorry. My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope Oct 30 #19

Condolences... MiHale Oct 30 #20

Saddening. B.See Oct 30 #21

My profound sympathies to you and your family. no_hypocrisy Oct 30 #22

I'm so sorry. barbtries Oct 30 #23

I am so sorry UpInArms Oct 30 #24

So sorry. I lost my husband in 2021, still miss him so much. TommieMommy Oct 30 #25

Peace and comfort to you. This has to be so difficult. Tanuki Oct 30 #26

So sorry. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Oct 30 #27

Sorry for your loss. Emile Oct 30 #28

My condolences from me and SO Tetrachloride Oct 30 #29

my heart goes out to you. my deepest sympathies. somaticexperiencing Oct 30 #30

Oh, I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved. I sincerely hope that you're surrounded by the love & caring of your The_REAL_Ecumenist Oct 30 #31

I wish you peace with the knowledge that your care for your husband over the years made a tremendous difference... hlthe2b Oct 30 #32

I wish you and your son Strength and Courage in the days ahead. ZZenith Oct 30 #33

I am mgardener Oct 30 #34

We hear you, we're listening, keep talking through it as much as you need or want to. Think. Again. Oct 30 #35

Heartfelt condolences kairos12 Oct 30 #36

I'm here, I see you, JustAnotherGen Oct 30 #37

I'm so sorry. blogslug Oct 30 #38

I'm so sorry... PCIntern Oct 30 #39

I am sorry for your loss. Grumpy Old Guy Oct 30 #40

I am so sorry. Peace and strength to you and his other family and friends. mucholderthandirt Oct 30 #41

Condolences sarge43 Oct 30 #42

"wrap your mind around it"? (natural thoughts) He was/is loved. He loved you. You & son were there. Stuff happens. Bernardo de La Paz Oct 30 #43

Well said soandso Oct 30 #241

I'm so sorry. My sympathy to you and your family. livetohike Oct 30 #44

I'm sorry for your loss. NameAlreadyTaken Oct 30 #45

I'm so sorry underpants Oct 30 #46

I am so sorry. Wishing light and peace Dr. Shepper Oct 30 #47

So very sorry Tesha Oct 30 #48

I'm so sorry. KarenS Oct 30 #49

Sorry for your loss. Brainfodder Oct 30 #50

I'm so sorry for you. TheBlackAdder Oct 30 #51

One step in front of the other you can do this Botany Oct 30 #52

I'm so very sorry GigiLeigh Oct 30 #53

Sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family. akbacchus_BC Oct 30 #54

Condolences, 1monster gademocrat7 Oct 30 #55

My condolences on the loss of your beloved, 1monster Niagara Oct 30 #56

Deepest condolences. NNadir Oct 30 #57

I will be thinking of you. It's a lot to process mahina Oct 30 #58

This is so sad malaise Oct 30 #59

I'm so sorry. LisaM Oct 30 #60

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband passing. Liberal In Texas Oct 30 #61

RIP Snoopy 7 Oct 30 #62

So sorry for your loss, MacKasey Oct 30 #63

So very sorry what you are going through. JohnSJ Oct 30 #64

Sorry for your loss. May your heart find peace. ancianita Oct 30 #65

Deepest condolences GeoWilliam750 Oct 30 #66

I am truely sorry for your loss. Old Crank Oct 30 #67

Sorry for your loss Jersey Devil Oct 30 #68

My deepest sympathy bdamomma Oct 30 #69

You are probably in shock mnhtnbb Oct 30 #70

So, so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. n/t iluvtennis Oct 30 #71

So very sorry snowybirdie Oct 30 #72

I am so sorry. usedtobedemgurl Oct 30 #73

So sorry for your loss. Dear_Prudence Oct 30 #74

Holding you and your family in the light. Your husband was lucky to have you japple Oct 30 #75

Deepest condolences SheltieLover Oct 30 #76

Such a shock. I'm so very sorry for phylny Oct 30 #77

That's terrible. I'm very sorry harumph Oct 30 #78

My sympathies. pandr32 Oct 30 #79

Hugs to you and your family Sea A Chell Oct 30 #80

So very sorry flakey_foont Oct 30 #81

I'm so sorry. ramen Oct 30 #82

my biggest fear.... samnsara Oct 30 #83

I can't imagine what you've just experienced, but as we age I guess we have to accept this is going to happen Vinca Oct 30 #84

I am so sorry for your loss ecstatic Oct 30 #85

It's a shock even when we know and I'm sorry you are going through it. Solly Mack Oct 30 #86

So sorry for your loss. Groundhawg Oct 30 #87

{{{hugs}}} Delphinus Oct 30 #88

I am sorry you True Blue American Oct 30 #89

So very sorry samplegirl Oct 30 #90

My condolences for the loss of your dear one. oasis Oct 30 #91

I'm so sorry for SunsetDreams2 Oct 30 #92

Soooooooooooooo sorry for you and your stepson.....I have no words of comfort. a kennedy Oct 30 #93

I am so so sorry. Janeyre Oct 30 #94

Peace (n/t) PJMcK Oct 30 #95

I am so sorry, 1monster dmr Oct 30 #96

I'm sorry Bettie Oct 30 #97

My deepest condolences for you and your family. LiberalLoner Oct 30 #98

Hugs Y'all... My Sincere Condolences... MayReasonRule Oct 30 #99

My deepest condolences La Coliniere Oct 30 #100

I cannot even begin to know what you've just been through. I don't even know the depth of what it ... marble falls Oct 30 #101

So sorry for your loss Americanme Oct 30 #102

I'm so sorry! Ocelot II Oct 30 #103

Sending love, support, and hugs cally Oct 30 #104

I'm so sorry. highplainsdem Oct 30 #105

I'm so sorry, 1monster. arkielib Oct 30 #106

I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself. Nt spooky3 Oct 30 #107

I am so sorry for your loss Ruby the Liberal Oct 30 #108

May you and your family find peace. riversedge Oct 30 #109

So sorry for your loss SilverDawg Oct 30 #110

I am so sorry for your loss Deep State Witch Oct 30 #111

I'm so very sorry. My deepest sympahties to you and your family. NT Happy Hoosier Oct 30 #112

I'm so sorry 1monster... democratsruletheday Oct 30 #113

I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Oct 30 #114

My husband and I have been together since 1982. I don't know what I'd do if he died either? lark Oct 30 #115

I am so sorry. Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to process and grieve. Bumbles Oct 30 #116

I think you may be in shock. I'm emotionally wrapping my arms around you in a comforting hug. Joinfortmill Oct 30 #117

... spanone Oct 30 #118

j am sorry FightFight Oct 30 #119

My thoughts are with you. JustinBulletin Oct 30 #120

I'm so very sorry cate94 Oct 30 #121

I'm so sorry.. onecaliberal Oct 30 #122

Accept my sincere condolences. ThePartyThatListens Oct 30 #123

I am so sorry Lulu KC Oct 30 #124

I unexpectedly lost my brother TBF Oct 30 #125

I am so sorry for you and your son. I glad you felt you could come here to share your grief. Fla Dem Oct 30 #126

So sorry for you and your stepson. marked50 Oct 30 #127

Condolences to you and your family. Mr. Mustard 2023 Oct 30 #128

My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Oct 30 #129

I am so deeply sorry for your loss and the trauma you and your son have been through. Trueblue Texan Oct 30 #130

You are still in shock. Ilsa Oct 30 #131

Sending you all kinds of strength, TruthAlwaysWins Oct 30 #132

Your loss already happened over time. The good you've done masks this last bit. Festivito Oct 30 #133

My deepest sympathies to you and your family mountain grammy Oct 30 #134

My heart goes out to you and your son... GoldenMezzoDiva Oct 30 #135

I'm so very sorry, 1monster. LuckyCharms Oct 30 #136

I'm so sorry. MaryMagdaline Oct 30 #137

Condolences for you and your family. diehardblue Oct 30 #138

You will go through a wide range of emotions RainCaster Oct 30 #139

So sorry to read this peggysue2 Oct 30 #140

My deepest condolences. KS Toronado Oct 30 #141

My sincere condolences ((hugs)) 💐 Deuxcents Oct 30 #143

Im so sorry for your family's loss berniesandersmittens Oct 30 #144

I am so sorry. May his memeories be a blessing to you and your family. debm55 Oct 30 #145

... 2 Meow Momma Oct 30 #146

Your long beloved husband Clouds Passing Oct 30 #147

I am so very sorry for your loss! You have my very deepest condolences. I am glad that DU provided you a safe place to LaMouffette Oct 30 #148

I'm so sorry for your loss 0rganism Oct 30 #149

I'm so sorry for your loss. doubleplusgood Oct 30 #150

I am so sorry to learn of your husband's passing RT Atlanta Oct 30 #151

I am so sorry IbogaProject Oct 30 #152

Please check in now and again and let us know you are okay. Anonymous we may be, but we care about you. Maru Kitteh Oct 30 #153

I hear you, 1monster. TygrBright Oct 30 #154

I am so so sorry... CaptainTruth Oct 30 #155

I am so sorry. murielm99 Oct 30 #156

My deepest sympathies to you & your family. -nt CrispyQ Oct 30 #157

... AKwannabe Oct 30 #158

So, so sorry 1monster. I'm glad you could share with us here. KPN Oct 30 #159

My condolences to you and your family relayerbob Oct 30 #160

Sorry to hear this. Lost for words, but bluestarone Oct 30 #162

What a shock! My condolences and hugs to you. Passages Oct 30 #163

I am so very sorry Highway61 Oct 30 #164

My thoughts are with you Coexist Oct 30 #165

You don't have to know how you feel---just feel--or not Maeve Oct 30 #166

My condolences for your loss. Xavier Breath Oct 30 #167

I know. Me too. 22 months ago. Richluu Oct 30 #168

I'm so sorry. I lost my father to Parkinson's and Alzheimer's. Liberty Belle Oct 30 #169

I know. Me too. 22 months ago. Richluu Oct 30 #170

May his memory be an eternal blessing. róisín_dubh Oct 30 #171

Sorry this happened the way it did. Arthur_Frain Oct 30 #172

You have my sympathy anyway. Linda ladeewolf Oct 30 #173

I am so very sorry... Spazito Oct 30 #174

I am so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and all the family. c-rational Oct 30 #175

I am so sorry kimbutgar Oct 30 #176

I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Oct 30 #177

So very sorry DownriverDem Oct 30 #178

Sending love and peace to you Wild blueberry Oct 30 #179

I'm so sorry for your loss bikes and bunnies Oct 30 #180

I'm sorry for your loss. Dan Oct 30 #181

I am so sorry for your loss. PA Democrat Oct 30 #182

I am so sorry. I pray for strength for you. LoisB Oct 30 #183

I am so very sorry for your loss. sheshe2 Oct 30 #184

So very sad for you and your sons people Oct 30 #185

I am so very sorry. StarryNite Oct 30 #186

Sincere condolences Mr.Bill Oct 30 #187

So so sorry! PortTack Oct 30 #188

I'm so sorry for your loss Danmel Oct 30 #189

Grief Nigrum Cattus Oct 30 #190

This saddens me greatly CountAllVotes Oct 30 #191

its a blessing, but its damned too fast. my uncle's mother in law was slipping into AZ, had a heart attack pansypoo53219 Oct 30 #192

My deepest sympathies Picaro Oct 30 #193

I'm so sorry for your loss. I just lost my husband 3 weeks ago . sueh Oct 30 #194

Sending hugs and love Tree Lady Oct 30 #195

So sorry The Third Doctor Oct 30 #196

We are never ready. Keep the memories with you. LiberalFighter Oct 30 #197

I'm so sorry for your enormous loss, 1monster Wicked Blue Oct 30 #198

So sorry for your loss. evolves Oct 30 #199

This is one of the hardest things in life, and my heart goes out to you. colorado_ufo Oct 30 #200

I wish I could hug you. pacalo Oct 30 #201

Condolences and admiration DFW Oct 30 #202

My deepest condolences to you on the loss virgdem Oct 30 #203

A surreal moment for you and your stepson. Condolences. OAITW r.2.0 Oct 30 #204

Condolences to you and your family. Peace & love be with all of you in the days to come. Hekate Oct 30 #205

My sympathy goes out to you ms.pamela Oct 30 #206

I am so sorry for your loss. StrictlyRockers Oct 30 #207

Hugs sakabatou Oct 30 #208

So Very Sorry ravjav Oct 30 #209

Every sympathy to you and your family, Alice B. Oct 30 #210

Some hugs from far away. Teacher of the Year Oct 30 #211

I am so sorry 1monster. Diamond_Dog Oct 30 #212

Just holding you in my thoughts.. Permanut Oct 30 #213

Sending you love and emotional support. calimary Oct 30 #214

My heart goes out to you. ificandream Oct 30 #215

You have my sincerest condolences. I feel your pain. generalbetrayus Oct 30 #216

I am so very sorry for your loss.... Dem4life1970 Oct 30 #217

PEACE Windy Apple Oct 30 #218

I'm so sorry this happened to you and your son wryter2000 Oct 30 #219

Deepest sympathies to you and your family. Duncan Grant Oct 30 #220

May peace come to you and your son. NoSheep Oct 30 #221

So, so sorry senseandsensibility Oct 30 #222

I am so so sorry happy feet Oct 30 #223

I am so sorry for you loss sdfernando Oct 30 #224

I'm so sorry. You did everything you possibly could have done. Warpy Oct 30 #225

I am so very sorry for your loss. Holding you in warmth and light. CousinIT Oct 30 #226

"" AllaN01Bear Oct 30 #227

So very sorry SleeplessinSoCal Oct 30 #228

Dearest 1monster, condolences of the highest order MagickMuffin Oct 30 #229

I'm terribly sorry misanthrope Oct 30 #230

I am so sorry KT2000 Oct 30 #231

So very sorry. n/t rambler_american Oct 30 #232

Sorry for your loss. It has been almost 5 years since my husband died. appleannie1 Oct 30 #233

Oh my dear I am so sorry nolabear Oct 30 #234

Sorry for your loss. 💔 sarchasm Oct 30 #235

So Sorry for your Loss Homoudont Oct 30 #236

My deepest condolences LostOne4Ever Oct 30 #237

Love and prayers for you and your family DinahMoeHum Oct 30 #238

I am so very sorry. benfranklin1776 Oct 30 #239

My condolences Catherine Vincent Oct 30 #240

This is my nightmare.... bleedingulcers Oct 30 #242

Sincerest condolences. nt. anamnua Oct 30 #243

Woah, that's just Awful! My condolences. Especially bc it was a sudden shock... electric_blue68 Oct 30 #244

I am so sorry. xmas74 Oct 30 #245

I am so sorry for your loss... Demsrule86 Oct 30 #246

I am so sorry for your loss. Take time, and take care of yourself. liberalla Oct 30 #247

I'm so sorry for your loss. Beacool Oct 30 #248

All Our Sympathies ProfessorGAC Oct 30 #249

My heart bleeds for you soldierant Oct 30 #250

I am so sorry for your loss HipChick Oct 30 #251

Please add my sympathy to this outpouring. babylonsister Oct 30 #252

May you be loved in the future, so sorry for your loss. Ellipsis Oct 30 #253

So very sorry for both you and your son crimycarny Oct 30 #254

Oh wow, so very sorry 😞 FirstLight Oct 30 #255

So, so sorry LibinMo Oct 30 #256

I'm so sorry. Even it you expect it "someday" it is always such a shock to the system. flying_wahini Oct 30 #257

Sorry for your loss tishaLA Oct 30 #258

Big hugs from me. Losing someone suddenly when you think there's more time is the worst... Violet_Crumble Oct 30 #259

Condolences majdrfrtim Oct 31 #260

Condolences to you and your family ribrepin Oct 31 #261

Great peace and comfort to you and yours. TheKentuckian Oct 31 #262