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(8,487 posts) Tue Nov 12, 2024, 09:44 AM Nov 12

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So.... my daughter got some terrible news, and it has her angry and terrified. [View all]

She learned last Friday that a close college friend, with whom she was very close with when they attended the same school, died suddently and unexpectedly late election night. Her friend was non-binary and strong LGBTQ activist. Their fiance was working that night and she came home to find them drowned in a bathtub.... and it appears they drank a lot and perhaps took some pills while in the bathtub. It is not clear if their death was deliberate, or not. But my daughter is convinced that they were despondant about the election and and if they didn't deliberately kill themselves, did so accidentally while trying to kill the pain.

She went to their funeral last night and she careens between being devasted and burning with a white hot anger.

I'm not sure what to tell her. What a terrible thing for her to go through.

EDIT: Thank you all for your kind words. I showed this to my daughter, and she started to cry, in a good way, in appreciation for your compassion. Thank you.

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So.... my daughter got some terrible news, and it has her angry and terrified. [View all] Happy Hoosier Nov 12 OP

I don't even know what to say... Hugin Nov 12 #1

I think the suicide rate will rise in the US now. Irish_Dem Nov 12 #2

Sadly, I'll be expecting both suicide and homicide to rise drastically. Harker Nov 12 #5

Yes there has already been an increase in violent acting out. Irish_Dem Nov 12 #28

The promise of the internet, that it would bring the collected wisdom of all human history to all, and bring us together Harker Nov 12 #31

Greatest moral collapse and lack of civic duty in US history. Irish_Dem Nov 12 #35

+33. n/t Harker Nov 12 #38

And, the rethugs will rejoice about it. OldBaldy1701E Nov 12 #6

I am not scoffing. You are correct. The higher suicide rate will please Trump and the MAGAs. Irish_Dem Nov 12 #13

No scoffing here, either. Harker Nov 12 #20

Yup. OldBaldy1701E Nov 12 #41

Yes, it's all about ratios. Harker Nov 12 #42

The rethugs and uncontrolled capitalism destroyed 'community'. OldBaldy1701E Nov 12 #43

Orchestrated, exactly. Harker Nov 12 #45

'Scoff if you want to' was wrong to say here. No one here is scoffing. OldBaldy1701E Nov 12 #40

It won't be just non-Trump supporters committing suicide. generalbetrayus Nov 12 #27

And people will die due to lack of medical insurance. Irish_Dem Nov 12 #29

I think so bdamomma Nov 12 #49

Yes I agree. Irish_Dem Nov 12 #50

It's always hard to go to that first funeral especially as a young person and especially when the person who died jimfields33 Nov 12 #3

This brings back so many painful memories of AIDS and how those sick and dying people were treated. Jit423 Nov 12 #51

Yes, and just like back then, the preachers are telling their congregants.... 70sEraVet Nov 13 #55

Sadly, the first among many tragedies to come. NNadir Nov 12 #4

A lot of people will die because of Fuckface. Initech Nov 12 #22

I'm rapidly drawing the conclusion he's nothing but an Eloon... NNadir Nov 12 #23

Oh this is going to be the definition of a puppet regime, no question. Initech Nov 12 #24

I'm sure we'll be seeing a nasty blend of the two. n/t Harker Nov 12 #32

It's devastating to lose a good friend like this ... and a little terrifying too FakeNoose Nov 12 #7

My wife and I have encouraged her to pursue some counselling Happy Hoosier Nov 12 #11

I'm sorry! The number of suicide deaths is up since last Tuesday PortTack Nov 12 #8

So sad. calimary Nov 12 #44

This is terrible news. Hope22 Nov 12 #9

Horrific. I am so sorry for your daughter and her friend. We can't give up. LoisB Nov 12 #10

Be with her. Listen to her. Wild blueberry Nov 12 #12

One thing that is tough is that she's not at home.... Happy Hoosier Nov 12 #14

Could you cook up a bunch of her favorite food and bring it this weekend? Wild blueberry Nov 12 #18

That's a great idea... and I actually did that this past weekend. Happy Hoosier Nov 12 #19

I am so so sorry and angry about this event irisblue Nov 12 #15

I'm so sorry. Solly Mack Nov 12 #16

Horribly sad. Nt spooky3 Nov 12 #17

My condolences to your daughter and her friend MustLoveBeagles Nov 12 #21

Oh what a shame...I am SO sorry this happened... The_REAL_Ecumenist Nov 12 #25

I am so sorry for their loss. So unnecessary and tragic. One of many communities to be under attack. Evolve Dammit Nov 12 #26

I am sorry to hear that. I am ashamed that anyone supports that monster. They killed them. Doodley Nov 12 #30

... Faux pas Nov 12 #33

I am really really sorry. A lot of hopeless people--both targeted and less so may take this way out**. Be good to one hlthe2b Nov 12 #34

I'm sorry for the pain FemDemERA Nov 12 #36

Support for the non-binary people Nov 12 #37

Heartbreaking lindalou65 Nov 12 #39

So sad for the loss of your daughter's friends That should never have happened. Clouds Passing Nov 12 #46

I just can't imagine. I'm so sorry for your daughter, you, and her friends. slightlv Nov 12 #47

My heart goes out to them and all of the others who are suffering. Remember, tRUMP has been president before, we SWBTATTReg Nov 12 #48

I'm so sorry your daughter lost her friend and fiance like that. Ligyron Nov 12 #52

Wow that's so traumatic to deal with Saoirse9 Nov 12 #53

I'm so sorry she lost her dear friend, and under such Ilsa Nov 12 #54