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XanaDUer2

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72. Its obvious what the right thing to do here

Mon Aug 5, 2024, 01:48 PM

Aug 5

Fallen older mother in pain. The only logical dynamic is getting her help..my first thought would be potential fractured wrist/hip.

If she cannot get basic home care, then she needs to be where she can get it. And you're losing TV? who cares?

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I'm feeling pretty depressed [View all] mvd Aug 2 OP

Good Luck with The Move...We Will Support You Here at Democratic Underground...no text... Stuart G Aug 2 #1

Thank you! House is going up for sale very soon mvd Aug 2 #2

Please remember Matt you are part of the family here. I wish you all the joy and happiness. It is okay to feel overwhelm debm55 Aug 2 #3

Thanks so much Deb mvd Aug 2 #4

Sending good vibes for a quick sale at a great price! Then on to your next life in a new place. MLAA Aug 2 #5

You should get a very high sale price PennRalphie Aug 2 #6

praying for blessings mdmc Aug 2 #7

Little better today but might not last mvd Aug 3 #8

Have you yet explored XanaDUer2 Aug 3 #9

Seems your answer is below Hekate Aug 3 #11

In my lifetime, PennRalphie Aug 3 #12

All good suggestions Hekate Aug 4 #16

There's never any followup XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #17

I just looked at that website. PennRalphie Aug 4 #18

I told him this on a past fundraiser XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #19

Well, I'm kinda speechless PennRalphie Aug 4 #20

I may not be the only one who wonders if "mother" even really exists Hekate Aug 4 #25

YOU, have assisted this person with all excellent info, in the past! bluestarone Aug 4 #21

OMG dozen or more DUers XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #22

I believe you 100% I also feel like you do about IF his mothers is getting the care she needs? bluestarone Aug 4 #23

I was in social services for yrs XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #24

Also mom fell a couple days ago mvd Aug 3 #10

I am so sorry for your mom. debm55 Aug 3 #13

Thanks Deb mvd Aug 3 #14

Hello there MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #30

A 75(?)-yr-old frail woman XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #31

I agree MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #32

She went to that Urgent Care mvd Aug 4 #33

ER XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #34

No you can't MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #36

I hope these yrs of deprivation stories are XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #38

Exactly! MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #39

Maybe it is a hint for more Uber money XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #40

Took long enough to mention it MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #42

His history is not liking any facts. PennRalphie Aug 4 #41

His mother needs help MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #43

In past fund-raisers XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #44

It is illegal to solicit funds under false pretenses JoseBalow Aug 4 #45

Is there a mother at all, is what I've been wondering for a long time Hekate Aug 5 #83

Sigh. PennRalphie Aug 4 #47

A lot of big-hearted givers at DU are on a very tight budget themselves Hekate Aug 5 #84

But osteopath6 Aug 5 #80

Reminds me of a section from "A Child's Garden of Grass" JoseBalow Aug 4 #35

Never heard of that one! MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #37

Excuse me for butting in. but why would you look up someone's private information, I can see other's point of view but debm55 Aug 4 #46

I suppose it is odd debm55 MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #48

I understand what you and the other posters are saying and have on previous posts. However, my point was going into debm55 Aug 4 #49

Please given him the website PennRalphie Aug 4 #50

I will try. However my son who is 33 years old and adopted is now just getting help now on his own. I live in SW PA. And debm55 Aug 4 #51

I wish the best for your husband PennRalphie Aug 4 #52

I don't understand your point then MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #54

What I needed to see was right next to your name. the number of posts. I understand debm55 Aug 4 #56

"You only have 105 posts and have been here since 2023" MerrilyMerrily Aug 4 #59

I was told by an e-mail. Happy now? debm55 Aug 4 #60

Everyone's sign up date is in their profile questionseverything Aug 5 #91

TY for sharing , I had the information shared to me via DU email I know to look at the profile, but was given the date debm55 Aug 5 #92

Merrily had asked, where was 2023 next to her name questionseverything Aug 5 #93

It's not, it is in the profile. Look up my profile. I don't quit get what you are saying. My biggest question was not debm55 Aug 5 #95

I was answering merrily , they had asked where the 2023 was questionseverything Aug 5 #97

Thank you so much, I have so much with Rich's malignant prostrate cancer and the bank freezing our accounts and debm55 Aug 5 #98

No worries, you are a very kind person, I knew it was just a misunderstanding questionseverything Aug 5 #99

They offered their words of comfort to me, here in the Lounge. And for that I am forever grateful from the bottom of my debm55 Aug 4 #57

This obsession of yours is really weird mvd Aug 4 #53

Matt, turn the computer off, take a look at your mom and talk to her for awhile. See if she needs anthing. I suffer from debm55 Aug 4 #55

This message was self-deleted by its author Hekate Aug 6 #103

"You only have 105 posts and have been here since 2023..." demmiblue Aug 5 #94

I believe or think I know the poster too. I had a constant go around with a very similiar poster. If said poster has debm55 Aug 5 #96

Wow. Sorry about your mother PennRalphie Aug 3 #15

Hoping so much things will work out very well, and that better times lie ahead for you. LiberalLoner Aug 4 #26

I hope things are better in the fall! viva la Aug 4 #27

That realtor friend went full MAGA anyway mvd Aug 4 #28

Please have your mother's wrist examined XanaDUer2 Aug 4 #29

Hope all goes well for you!! InAbLuEsTaTe Aug 4 #58

Is your mom being examined for wrist/body pain? XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #61

🦗🦗🦗🦗 Floyd R. Turbo Aug 5 #62

This message was self-deleted by its author debm55 Aug 5 #63

I know XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #64

Oh oh! Out of Tylenol! Time for a fund raiser! Floyd R. Turbo Aug 5 #66

If true, all these stories XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #67

I DU last night to tell him to use Senior Centers or Church organizations for rides. debm55 Aug 5 #65

I begged him yrs ago, as did other concerned XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #68

That's what we have in our PA county. But some(Westmoreland) will only let the person with the appointment go, based on debm55 Aug 5 #69

Ok XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #70

I understand you completely. My family will not take Access as it is for poor folks. So last summer it was me and my debm55 Aug 5 #71

Its obvious what the right thing to do here XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #72

I understand completely. I called Senior Services in Allegheny County for my dad. I thought it was elder abuse. Their debm55 Aug 5 #73

I do think of this stranger from time to time XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #76

After the latest "go fund me" event here at DU... Harker Aug 5 #101

! XanaDUer2 Aug 6 #102

What!!!!! PennRalphie Aug 6 #104

I had remained unsure, though skeptical, but that clinched it. Harker Aug 6 #105

Good question. Nt XanaDUer2 Aug 7 #106

Are we sure the mother actually exists? Raven Aug 5 #74

No XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #75

Is it possible to get a welfare check on the mother? I know we got that for another DUer recently. Raven Aug 5 #77

Sadly, I don't know XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #78

The Moderators might know. I have no idea how to flag them on this. Raven Aug 5 #79

Your seem to know him personally PennRalphie Aug 5 #81

No I don't know personally. I live in Allegheny county and I don't know what county he is in. I do Du emails. mostly debm55 Aug 5 #82

My mistake, I thought you knew him PennRalphie Aug 5 #85

After getting his mother looked at medically XanaDUer2 Aug 5 #86

Oh no, I told him to contact a church or senior center to take his mom to the ER. I hope he did it. His mom needs to debm55 Aug 5 #87

Western PA PennRalphie Aug 5 #88

Sorry. I forgot. debm55 Aug 5 #89

Not a problem PennRalphie Aug 5 #90

I'm hopeful that someone here has or can find out where you live and will request that law enforcement Floyd R. Turbo Aug 5 #100