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Dash87

(3,220 posts)

13. Most women will not approach you and ask you for a date.

Reply to Denninmi (Original post)

Sun Jan 6, 2013, 12:17 PM

Jan 2013

I think that's most mens' problems with finding a date. If you see someone you like, just ask them out. What's the worst that can happen?

Don't listen to the "act rich" or "act like an asshole" people. Just be yourself, and ask many people out - one is bound to say yes.

I object to the term "leagues." I always found that whole concept pretty stupid - I don't believe there is such a thing - just people with different interests. I also noticed that you're insulting yourself in your OP - maybe that's part of the problem? It's like climbing - don't look down - just go for it. Don't pretend to be something you're not, and have a positive attitude.

Also, have you tried the internet? I have a few friends that have had good results from it.

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So, why are all of the women I meet out of my league? And usually unavailable. [View all] Denninmi Jan 2013 OP

Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #1

Dude, I suggest you self delete, now ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2013 #2

Yeah, you are SO going to get an alert on this one. Denninmi Jan 2013 #4

it worked for the '83 White Sox. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #10

This could be worded better. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #5

The first thing you need to do is drop that attitude ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2013 #3

Volunteer, and forget the gym as a place for meeting women. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #6

You're probably too honest. AnotherMcIntosh Jan 2013 #7

wish you the best. seabeyond Jan 2013 #8

Well, a serious relationship would be nice. Denninmi Jan 2013 #9

I think socialization in general once you get into your 40s gets more challenging. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #11

use the internet plus you may be trying to play in the wrong leaugue. loli phabay Jan 2013 #12

Most women will not approach you and ask you for a date. Dash87 Jan 2013 #13

Join groups. Meet ups. Springslips Jan 2013 #14

Don't think about "Leagues" at all. klook Jan 2013 #15

What are your interests? loose wheel Jan 2013 #16

Christ, man, I'd think the cooking *alone* would make you some friends. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #17

Hey guys, thanks again. Denninmi Jan 2013 #18

I'm sure you realize it's probably better to start with someone who's more available- Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #19

please don't be that guy who stares *keeps noticing* particular girls in the gym bettyellen Jan 2013 #20

The gym sucks as a place to meet people. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #21

Ha ha, yes. Maybe if you're a gym rat it'll work. But it's like the beach, women are often a bit bettyellen Jan 2013 #22

I've noticed that the *noticing* is not confined to any particular gender, myself. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #24

GUYS, you are absolutely the best. Denninmi Feb 2013 #25

Just wanted to add that I posted the warning about the gym bettyellen Feb 2013 #23