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BWdem4life

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8. The answer to most questions

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 02:50 AM

Jul 2023

are printed on the AA coins:

"To thine own self be true."

Be truthful with yourself about your reason(s) for either wanting to go, or not wanting to go. Make sure the reason is valid (self-reflection, self-evaluation, ask another person or two for their opinion).

Then do whatever it takes to stay sober. Be considerate to your wife - let her know you understand how she feels and that you'll stay open to the possibility of participating in things she likes to do when you feel ready. But there can't be a specific timetable, it's different for everyone.

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Almost 5 years sober and there are still things I don't do [View all] bif Jul 2023 OP

Did you not think you needed to quit drinking? NoRethugFriends Jul 2023 #1

I found people who are drunk are pretty sweet when I quit alcohol. applegrove Jul 2023 #2

If you don't feel good about those types of events and outings, don't go. Bristlecone Jul 2023 #3

Totally remember those conversations ... back in 2010 when I was sober and my (now) ex-wife was not. Hugh_Lebowski Jul 2023 #4

DON'T GIVE UP ...Hugh....DON'T EVER GIVE UP...............and........ Stuart G Aug 2023 #10

Thanks mate :) Hugh_Lebowski Aug 2023 #11

There will come a time that is does not phase you to be around people drinking. Chainfire Jul 2023 #5

If you feel uneasy don't do it. onecaliberal Jul 2023 #6

I'm with you, don't go to a situation that may not be safe for your sobriety. MLAA Jul 2023 #7

The answer to most questions BWdem4life Jul 2023 #8

THANK YOU...for all the work you do in this group. THANK YOU, THANK YOU & THANK YOU!!!! Stuart G Aug 2023 #9