Bereavement

agingdem

(8,541 posts)

15. Grieving still

Sun Oct 21, 2018, 06:55 PM

Oct 2018

after 2 years I still have to remind myself to breathe...to put one foot in front of the other...I've stopped eating..my daughter says I have an eating disorder...I told her no I have a grieving disorder...I met him when I was 16..he died when I was 68..a lifetime...I have children and grandchildren..they don't need me and I just get in the way..when someone asks if I'm ok I answer truthfully...no..I rarely leave my home...I'm hiding from the sad eyes and the incredibly insensitive comments: so sorry for your loss but at least I still have my husband...so are planning to remarry...call me when you're ready to sell your house..it's not like its a divorce at least you won't run into him at Target....

I've said it before...it doesn't get better...whatever it is...it gets different...

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Over two years without my hubby [View all] choie Oct 2018 OP

Sincere condolences... RHMerriman Oct 2018 #1

Thank you RHMerriman choie Oct 2018 #7

I hope you find his voice..... Boxerfan Oct 2018 #2

Hi Boxerfan choie Oct 2018 #8

You're not alone agingdem Oct 2018 #3

I'm so sorry, agingdem choie Oct 2018 #9

I have not lost a spouse but I have lost a child so I know a little about the grieving process. ZZenith Oct 2018 #4

I'm so sorry for your loss, ZZenith choie Oct 2018 #10

You are very kind, choie. ZZenith Oct 2018 #12

My husband passed three years ago ... NanceGreggs Oct 2018 #5

Grieving still agingdem Oct 2018 #15

Choie, Sending you vibes for a peaceful, easy feeling. mobeau69 Oct 2018 #6

Thank you mobeau.. choie Oct 2018 #11

Oh, my dear choie...... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2018 #13

I lost my husband in September of 2016 spinbaby Oct 2018 #14

My condolences on your loss. Sherman A1 Oct 2018 #16

My husband died when he was 43.... chillfactor Oct 2018 #17

Some people do make a new life for themselves after loss. Others do so after divorce. 3Hotdogs Oct 2018 #18

I just spoke to a friend today whose loss is similar to yours. badhair77 Oct 2018 #19

Will be three years Saturday. So called life yes but not the happy ever after one. IADEMO2004 Oct 2018 #20

It's been seven years for me, this month. Jane Austin Oct 2018 #21

My husband passed in June. We are coming up on the holidays and I am going AJT Oct 2018 #22

It's not the same as a spouse but Blue_playwright Oct 2018 #24

I am so sorry you had to deal with so much in such a short time. AJT Oct 2018 #27

Wishing you an easing of the pain GeoWilliam750 Oct 2018 #23

It is so hard. murielm99 Oct 2018 #25

My wife died suddenly at 49 almost 10 years ago. It took about 5 years to get Hoyt Oct 2018 #26

My deepest condolences Moostache Oct 2018 #28

My husband passed 18 years ago. I don't think I'll ever recover williesgirl Oct 2018 #29

For me Rorey Oct 2018 #30

I am sending you kind energy. MLAA Oct 2018 #31