Finding nonreligious grief support and counseling [View all]

[Farmer-Rick]

Ok, I know I'm in the bible belt and every stupid thing is tied to religion, but come on........ I have just lost my wife of 35 years and my mother within 2 months of each other so give me a break.

So, 1st I did a Google search for a grief support group. There were about 30 within 50 miles. And every single one was in a church. So, I Googled nonreligious grief support groups found beyond belief, registered and got one guy over 100 miles and a large mountain range away.

So, I called the VA. I'm a disabled vet so I get medical services there. I talked to my primary care manager who said she would get the psych department to call me. A psychiatrist doctor calls and get this, she tells me to do a Google search. What about what I said made her think I was too stupid to do a search on line? But it gets worse.

She does the search while she is on the phone with me and points out all the church based groups. I tell her I'm not religious and she points out beyond belief. At this point her tone gets abrupt and snippy. Really lady, you want to talk down to me and be rude after I just told you I have lost 2 very important people in my life? what kind of psychiatrist are you?....a bad one obviously.

So, I just told her thanks and she said to call back if I couldn't find anything. Really, oh come on, if a simple search was all I needed I would never have called. I called because I couldn't find anything....

I guess I'll call back and see what I get. If she answers, I'm hanging up.

Has anyone have any success at finding nonreligious grief support groups. And how do you handle stupid doctors?