My mom passed away Thursday evening.

[TheBlackAdder]

186. That's horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that.

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This is a double-edged sword.

You gave selfishly for four years to care for her, and those will be memories that you will look fondly back upon as the years go onward. My mother was in a similar situation and my nearby sister became her steward in the ending years. While I would pop in a couple of times a week, it is like the grandparents who play with the grandkids, amp them up with sugar and send them home to their daughter or son's home. My other sibs and I had it much easier, as my one sister could not have a free day. It was difficult, tiresome, sometimes stressful and often she felt it was thankless. But after my mom passed, it hit her as to how much it impacted her life, when she now had time to occupy.

What you did was so wonderful. You spoke so fondly of her when she was alive and that will continue afterwards. I no doubt see you as the matriarch of your family's generation as my one sister became to ours. Bless you for being such a nice and kindhearted person.

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