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Showing Original Post only (View all)My wife's death. First time I'm posting. [View all]
Last edited Sat Jun 1, 2024, 07:38 PM - Edit history (1)
My wife died on 10 June last year. I haven't posted about it till now. I guess because it's the anniversary month. A horrible 31 month battle with gastric cancer. I lay beside her for 10 days in Hospice Care. We were married 40 years.
The only thing I've learned is that I used to say I wish I would have gone first. Don't be the one left.
Now, I say I'm glad I didnt go 1st. There is no chance in hell I would have wanted her to experience the last 12 months.
I want to thank the DU community because it has been the primary source of connection for me during this year. And remains so today.
Peace and strength to all those who are grieving.
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My condolences. But for a stroke of luck, I would have been posting something similar
DFW
Jun 2024
#4
Holding you in my heart. May you find consolation in 40 years of memories. n/t
TygrBright
Jun 2024
#6
I will be thinking of you all day and throughout these days. I can understand and I grieve for you too.
hlthe2b
Jun 2024
#9
All my blessings and sympathies to you. I can't even imagine, but aware that either my wife or I will have to face it.
Doodley
Jun 2024
#13
We're at Year 48 this year, and not a day goes by when I don't wonder which of us is gonna leave first.
calimary
Jun 2024
#22
I am so sorry for your unimaginable loss. I am also sorry you've been bearing it for this last year.
marble falls
Jun 2024
#24
One foot in front of the other. I know you will pull through. It is so wise you see his time with you as a blessing ...
marble falls
Jun 2024
#104
My Condolences and sympathy to you Kairos12, such a long marriage must contain many wonderful
ShazamIam
Jun 2024
#49
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can find a sense of peace during this time
Maraya1969
Jun 2024
#54
Thanks for letting us know. That must have been an awful three years for her. Hope you will be OK. ED
Evolve Dammit
Jun 2024
#63
What a painful thing to go through. I'm sure she was glad you were there with her.
flying_wahini
Jun 2024
#66
So many complex facets to the grief of losing one's life partner. Sending strength to you
Attilatheblond
Jun 2024
#117