Bereavement

Paper Roses

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29. Please accept my sympathy. It has been 16 years since my husband died.

Sat Jun 1, 2024, 02:36 PM

Jun 2024

There is no way that I know of to accept the loss. I have great memories as I'm sure you do. It has been lonely for all these years and I am on the verge of destitution. I hope you can find a way to come to grips with the big loss in your life.
They say things get better )I don't believe it). Married 45 years and I'm in bad health. If there is a heaven, I will give him hell for leaving me too soon.
If not, (and I don't believe there is), I will spend my last days with the memory of the good times.
My sympathy and hope you find solace with thoughts of the good times.

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My wife's death. First time I'm posting. [View all] kairos12 Jun 2024 OP

Many very heartfelt condolences... MiHale Jun 2024 #1

Thank you MiHale kairos12 Jun 2024 #69

My condolences. sinkingfeeling Jun 2024 #2

Hello sinkingfeeling kairos12 Jun 2024 #70

I learned an interesting word relatively recently, very likely here... 3catwoman3 Jun 2024 #3

Is that Yiddish? DFW Jun 2024 #8

According to Dictionary.com, it is Yiddish. 3catwoman3 Jun 2024 #38

Spanish enid602 Jun 2024 #127

The languages are a combination of circumstance and necessity DFW Jun 2024 #147

Your suspicion of veil being a typo is right on the money. 3catwoman3 Jun 2024 #167

Not to mention.... DFW Jun 2024 #169

yes, yahrzeit is the anniversary of a passing The Blue Flower Jun 2024 #55

Dear 3catwoman3 kairos12 Jun 2024 #71

We light YAHRZEIT candles to mark the anniversary of a passing. elleng Jun 2024 #176

My condolences. But for a stroke of luck, I would have been posting something similar DFW Jun 2024 #4

So if my math is correct soldierant Jun 2024 #42

We met 50 years ago, this July DFW Jun 2024 #150

Hello DFW kairos12 Jun 2024 #72

She went through a LOT DFW Jun 2024 #148

❤️ underpants Jun 2024 #5

Dear underpants kairos12 Jun 2024 #73

Holding you in my heart. May you find consolation in 40 years of memories. n/t TygrBright Jun 2024 #6

Dear TygrBright kairos12 Jun 2024 #74

Caring comes in many forms. Yours means a great deal. n/t TygrBright Jun 2024 #95

Peace to You IA8IT Jun 2024 #7

Dear IA8IT kairos12 Jun 2024 #75

I will be thinking of you all day and throughout these days. I can understand and I grieve for you too. hlthe2b Jun 2024 #9

Dear hithe2b kairos12 Jun 2024 #76

Very sorry for your loss. I hope you'll be kind to yourself. Nt spooky3 Jun 2024 #10

Dear spooky3 kairos12 Jun 2024 #77

Thank you. ++++++++++++++ spooky3 Jun 2024 #84

Sending hugs kairos12 and holding you in my livetohike Jun 2024 #11

Dear livetohike kairos12 Jun 2024 #78

I am so sorry. badhair77 Jun 2024 #12

Dear badhair77 kairos12 Jun 2024 #79

All my blessings and sympathies to you. I can't even imagine, but aware that either my wife or I will have to face it. Doodley Jun 2024 #13

Dear Doodley kairos12 Jun 2024 #80

My heart goes out to you kairos12. Peace and strength to you. LoisB Jun 2024 #14

Dear LoisB kairos12 Jun 2024 #82

My sincere condolences (((💐))) Deuxcents Jun 2024 #15

Dear Deuxcents kairos12 Jun 2024 #83

I'm so sorry. barbtries Jun 2024 #16

Dear barbtries kairos12 Jun 2024 #85

I am so very sorry for your loss Kairos.💔 lucca18 Jun 2024 #17

Dear lucca18 kairos12 Jun 2024 #86

Seven years since my hubby passed. tavernier Jun 2024 #18

Dear tavenier kairos12 Jun 2024 #87

My condolences central scrutinizer Jun 2024 #19

Dear central scrutinizer kairos12 Jun 2024 #89

Thanks. Seven years have passed central scrutinizer Jun 2024 #166

I'm so sorry. live love laugh Jun 2024 #20

Dear live love laugh kairos12 Jun 2024 #90

Peace and grace be with you kairos12 Peacetrain Jun 2024 #21

Dear Peacetrain kairos12 Jun 2024 #91

We're at Year 48 this year, and not a day goes by when I don't wonder which of us is gonna leave first. calimary Jun 2024 #22

Dear calimary kairos12 Jun 2024 #92

(((hugs))) samnsara Jun 2024 #23

Dear samnsara kairos12 Jun 2024 #93

I am so sorry for your unimaginable loss. I am also sorry you've been bearing it for this last year. marble falls Jun 2024 #24

Dear marble falls kairos12 Jun 2024 #94

One foot in front of the other. I know you will pull through. It is so wise you see his time with you as a blessing ... marble falls Jun 2024 #104

I hope you are taking care of yourself lillypaddle Jun 2024 #25

Dear lillypaddle kairos12 Jun 2024 #96

Heartbreaking wryter2000 Jun 2024 #26

Dear wryter2000 kairos12 Jun 2024 #97

Hold on to the memories. LiberalFighter Jun 2024 #27

Dear LiberalFighter kairos12 Jun 2024 #98

Peace and good health to you and yours. Magoo48 Jun 2024 #28

Dear Magoo48 kairos12 Jun 2024 #99

Please accept my sympathy. It has been 16 years since my husband died. Paper Roses Jun 2024 #29

Dear Paper Roses kairos12 Jun 2024 #100

Sending love and more love to you! Hope22 Jun 2024 #30

Dear Hope22 kairos12 Jun 2024 #101

You are welcome. Hope22 Jun 2024 #113

Blessings on her memory Wicked Blue Jun 2024 #31

Dear Wicked Blue kairos12 Jun 2024 #102

I'm so sorry Kairos for the loss of your wife and best friend FakeNoose Jun 2024 #32

Dear FakeNoose kairos12 Jun 2024 #103

I'm so sorry for your loss. louslobbs Jun 2024 #33

Dear louslobbs kairos12 Jun 2024 #105

💕 louslobbs Jun 2024 #181

Peace to you, kairos12. ancianita Jun 2024 #34

Than you for that. Elessar Zappa Jun 2024 #40

Dear ancianita kairos12 Jun 2024 #106

I'm so very sorry for your loss. yardwork Jun 2024 #35

Dear yardwork kairos12 Jun 2024 #107

Thank you. How kind of you! yardwork Jun 2024 #179

I'm very sorry for your loss. Lost my sister before Trump. 58Sunliner Jun 2024 #36

Dear 58Sunliner kairos12 Jun 2024 #108

Thank you. 58Sunliner Jun 2024 #177

Of an age to think about this rockbluff botanist Jun 2024 #37

Dear rockbluff botanist kairos12 Jun 2024 #109

Deepest sympathy to you and yours my friend malaise Jun 2024 #39

Dear malaise kairos12 Jun 2024 #110

Take care of you... Dan Jun 2024 #41

Dear Dan kairos12 Jun 2024 #111

Heart hugs to you 4TheArts Jun 2024 #43

Dear 4TheArts kairos12 Jun 2024 #112

So sorry for your loss. It gets better, the grief is rough. Been there myself. brush Jun 2024 #44

Dear brush kairos12 Jun 2024 #114

I am so very sorry for your loss. Dem2theMax Jun 2024 #45

Dear Dem2theMax kairos12 Jun 2024 #115

Condolences. AltairIV Jun 2024 #46

Dear AltairIV kairos12 Jun 2024 #116

So very sorry for your loss! PortTack Jun 2024 #47

Dear PortTack kairos12 Jun 2024 #118

I lost my first wife at age 39, returnee Jun 2024 #48

Dear returnee kairos12 Jun 2024 #119

My Condolences and sympathy to you Kairos12, such a long marriage must contain many wonderful ShazamIam Jun 2024 #49

Dear Shazamlam kairos12 Jun 2024 #120

My sweetheart and I made it to 40 years. Mme. Defarge Jun 2024 #50

Dear Mme. Defarge kairos12 Jun 2024 #121

Dear kairos12 MLAA Jun 2024 #51

Dear MLAA kairos12 Jun 2024 #122

Peace and strength to you, kairos12 MerrilyMerrily Jun 2024 #52

Dear MerrilyMerrily kairos12 Jun 2024 #123

I am sorry for your loss. pandr32 Jun 2024 #53

Dear pandr32 kairos12 Jun 2024 #124

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can find a sense of peace during this time Maraya1969 Jun 2024 #54

Dear Maraya1969 kairos12 Jun 2024 #125

Oh my, that's sad wendyb-NC Jun 2024 #56

Dear wendyb-NC kairos12 Jun 2024 #126

My condolences. I lost my wife to cancer seven weeks ago. maveric Jun 2024 #57

Dear maveric kairos12 Jun 2024 #128

Thank you so much. maveric Jun 2024 #132

I hope you're OK. SarahD Jun 2024 #58

Dear SarahD kairos12 Jun 2024 #129

Hugs DU friend. nt AKwannabe Jun 2024 #59

Dear AKwannable kairos12 Jun 2024 #130

The first year is often the hardest. Irish_Dem Jun 2024 #60

Dear Irish Dem kairos12 Jun 2024 #131

So sorry you lost your spouse of a lifetime Farmer-Rick Jun 2024 #61

Dear Farmer-Rick kairos12 Jun 2024 #133

I'm sorry for your loss. area51 Jun 2024 #62

Dear area51 kairos12 Jun 2024 #134

Thanks for letting us know. That must have been an awful three years for her. Hope you will be OK. ED Evolve Dammit Jun 2024 #63

Dear Evolve Dammit kairos12 Jun 2024 #135

Bless you. I lost my husband 17 months ago Richluu Jun 2024 #64

Dear Richluu kairos12 Jun 2024 #136

Psalms 30:5 Richluu Jun 2024 #180

Iknow how hard it. It True Blue American Jun 2024 #65

Dear True Blue American kairos12 Jun 2024 #137

What a painful thing to go through. I'm sure she was glad you were there with her. flying_wahini Jun 2024 #66

Dear flying_wahini kairos12 Jun 2024 #138

Peace elleng Jun 2024 #67

Dear elleng kairos12 Jun 2024 #139

You are most welcome, kairos12. elleng Jun 2024 #175

Dear elleng kairos12 Jun 2024 #178

Our thoughts... kentuck Jun 2024 #68

Dear kentuck kairos12 Jun 2024 #140

I'm so sorry for your loss. Ocelot II Jun 2024 #81

Dear Ocelot II kairos12 Jun 2024 #141

Peace and condolences for your loss. Dulcinea Jun 2024 #88

Dear Dulcinea kairos12 Jun 2024 #142

So many complex facets to the grief of losing one's life partner. Sending strength to you Attilatheblond Jun 2024 #117

Dear Attilatheblond kairos12 Jun 2024 #143

I'm so sorry for the loss of your wife of 40 years sdfernando Jun 2024 #144

Dear sdfemando kairos12 Jun 2024 #156

Sending peace and strength to you... virgdem Jun 2024 #145

Dear virgdem kairos12 Jun 2024 #157

Thank you for your kind words. virgdem Jun 2024 #173

So sorry for your loss nt Nululu Jun 2024 #146

Dear Nululu kairos12 Jun 2024 #158

Here's hoping you do well in the future Nululu Jun 2024 #161

I am so sorry. murielm99 Jun 2024 #149

Dear muirelm99 kairos12 Jun 2024 #159

Peace BoRaGard Jun 2024 #151

Dear BoRaGard kairos12 Jun 2024 #160

Sincere condolences , kairos gademocrat7 Jun 2024 #152

Dear gademocrat7 kairos12 Jun 2024 #162

I'm so sorry. Scrivener7 Jun 2024 #153

Dear Scrivener7 kairos12 Jun 2024 #163

I know it's tough... and I'm sorry that you're going through this. Oopsie Daisy Jun 2024 #154

Dear Oopsie Daisy kairos12 Jun 2024 #164

I'm so sorry for your loss cate94 Jun 2024 #155

Dear cate94 kairos12 Jun 2024 #165

Condolences .... jdadd Jun 2024 #168

Dear jaded kairos12 Jun 2024 #171

Rest in Paradise, kairos12's beloved wife Niagara Jun 2024 #170

Dear Niagara kairos12 Jun 2024 #172

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